5 tips to heal your body_blog_420הנה 5 דברים מופלאים בפשטותם שאת יכולה לעשות עם הגוף שלך כדי להתחיל לשנות אותו עוד היום. לגוף יש כמה נשקים סודיים מובנים לשינוי ובריאות שאנו נוטים להתעלם 'או לשכוח מהם באופן מוחלט. באופן מעניין, הם חינמיים וטבעיים!  

אני מבטיחה לך: אם תוסיפי אפילו שתיים מתוך חמש הפעולות לחיים שלך, הגוף שלך ישתנה תוך חודשים ספורים.

למעשה, גופים רבים נהיים חולים או עצובים ממחסור ברכיבים הפשוטים האלו.

בואי נראה איזה מתוכם תוכלי להוסיף היום כדי לשנות את גופך מיד?

מגע:

חיבוק, מסאז׳, כרבולים, סקס, דגדוגים, להחזיק תינוק, מה שלא יהיה... גופים אוהבים שנוגעים בהם.

אחד הדברים הכי מרפאים שאנחנו יכולים לעשות עבור הגוף שלנו זה לקבל מגע אדיב, נוכח ומזין (אלא אם את אוטיסטית, ואז זה אולי לא חל עלייך). האם את מקבלת מספיק מגע?

רבים מאיתנו חווים מחסור במגע בבגרותנו ולרוב הזמן היחיד שבו נקבל מגע יהיה במפגש מיני שעלול להיות רחוק ממגע אדיב או מזין.

אנחנו אפילו חיים בעולם בו מגע הרבה פעמים נחשב לא מקובל. אנחנו נתקלים בעובר אורח ואומרים ״סליחה״, לא ״שלום״. כמובן שישנם אלו שמתעללים באחרים עם מגע ושם המגע מקבל שם רע.

המגע חינמי לכולם ודבר וקל שאנחנו יכולים לעשות היום כדי לרפא את הגוף שלנו מיד. חלקכם אף אולי שמים לב שכשאתם מקבלים מגע מזין הגוף שלכם מתחיל לעבור דיטוקס רגשי או אנרגטי. זה כתוצאה ממאפיין הריפוי העוצמתי של מגע. אם הגוף מורעב מחוסר מגע, זה יכול ליצור חוסר איזון ומחלות בדיוק כמו רעב למזון מזין.

ההשפעות של מזון (או מחסור במזון) על הגוף הן לרוב דבר ידוע לכל, אבל יש מעט, אם בכלל, ידע לגבי האפקט של מגע (או חוסר מגע) בגוף.

מגע הוא עוצמתי. זה יכול לעורר רגשות חזקים, הקלה גדולה ושינוי גדול.

איך את יכולה להוסיף עוד מגע מרפא לחיים שלך היום?

צחוק:

צחוק משנה דברים יותר מדמעות. צחוק זה אחד הדרכים שבהם גופים משנים ומתמירים אנרגיות.

צחוק הוא אחד הדרכים היותר עוצמתיות לחיטוב, המרצה, החייאה ושינוי של הגוף.

זוכרת את הפעם האחרונה שצחקת ממש? כמה טוב הגוף הרגיש אחר כך?

כשאנחנו צוחקים, אנחנו מתחילים לשנות אנרגיה. כל הנסיבות בחיינו נוצרות בראש ובראשונה על ידי אנרגיה. המחשבות, רגשות והרגשות שלנו. מודעות או חוסר מודעות נוצרות מהאנרגיה לתוך המציאות והגוף הנוכחיים שלנו. אנרגיה היא השפה הראשונה שלנו, המארג של היקום ואבני הבניין (והמחסומים) של חיינו.

אנרגיה קיימת בחינם ובשפע אבל אנו נוטים לאבד את התמונה הרחבה הפשוטה לטובת הדברים שאנחנו יוצרים במיינד שלנו. שלזה, לידעתך, אין שום קשר לגוף שלך.

למעשה, זמן רב במיינד שלך יוביל לבעיות בגוף. צחוק מחבר את הגוף וההוויה שלך.

צחוק זה אחד מכוחות העל המובנים של הגוף. זה משמש לאפשור של אנרגיה. מי ידע שיצירת חיים יכולה להיות כל כך מצחיקה?

צחוק הוא עוצמתי, הוא יצירתי ויכול לשנות את גופך ואת העולם.

דמיינו אם אנשים היו צוחקים באותה אינטנסיביות שהם בוחרים עצב או כעס.

תנועה:

איזו תנועה גופך מבקש?

עכשיו, אני לא מתכוונת לרוץ או להזיע עד התשה, אבל זה יכול להיות לרוץ או להזיע עד התשה, אם זה מה שעובד עבור גופך.

אני מדברת על תנועה. לא התעמלות. אני חייבת להודות שאני אחד מהאנשים האלו שאוהבים לנוע ולהתעמל אבל אני לא מאלו שחושבים שכל האנשים צריכים להתעמל ושהתעמלות זו התשובה.

כשאנחנו מדברים על ריפוי ועל שינוי גוף, אנחנו לא יכולים להתעלם מתנועה כמסייעת לאנרגיית הגוף.

גופים נועדו לנוע, למעשה גופים מעוצבים לאזן את עצמם הורמונלית ונוירולוגית דרך תנועה.

איזו תנועה הגוף שלך יאהב היום?

האם הגוף שלך אוהב לעשות את אותה תנועה כל יום או שזה משתנה?

אם לא היתה לך שום עכבה או נקודת מבט לגבי גופך ופשוט היית נותנת לגוף לקחת פיקוד, איך הוא היה מתנועע?

ביליתי שנים ארוכות כמורה לפילאטיס וכמתרגלת יוגה באופן הדוק אז למדתי המון ״רוטינות״ לתנועה. עשיתי את אותו תרגול יוגה (אשאנטה) ארבע פעמים בשבוע ורכבתי על אופניים לסטודיו לפילאטיס ללמד אנשים 6 שעות ביום וכמובן, להכניס גם תרגול פילאטיס שלי לתוך זה.

זה הכל היה מאוד נכון, לא ככה? זו לא היתה אמורה להיות התשובה לגוף המושלם? לא משנה שהגוף שלי היה מותש ובכאבים באותו זמן...

יום אחד הגוף שלי פשוט סירב לעשות אשאנטה יוגה יותר על ידי קרע בגידים בשני שרירי הזרוע. וזה היה סוף הסיפור.

פילאטיס, שפעם היה האקסטזה של הגוף שלי, התחיל להרגיש מכווץ ומונוטוני.

אז הייתי צריכה להתחיל לגלות לאלו צורות נוספות של תנועה הגוף שלי משתוקק.
בהתחלה איתגר אותי לגלות מה מכבד את הגוף שלי מבחינת תנועה. מצאתי את עצמי מושפעת מנקודות המבט של אנשים אחרים לגבי מה נכון לגוף שלי.

לאורך זמן התחלתי לזהות את הסימנים של הגוף שלי וגיליתי עולם חדש שלם של תחושות ויצירה עם הגוף דרך תנועה שהייתי מתעלמת ומפספסת בעבר לטובת משהו יותר אינטנסיבי.

לפעמים הגוף שלי רצה לעשות משהו שבעבר הייתי רואה כלא מספיק או מוזר: כמו להתערסל ולנוע קדימה ואחור או אפילו פשוט לעשות סקס מהיר או לא מהיר.

הטעו רבים מאיתנו לגבי האופן ה״נכון״ להתעמל, כאילו יש דרך אחת נכונה לכל הגופים. כל גוף הוא שונה וכל יום הגופים שלנו שונים. מה שעבד עבור גופך אתמול אולי לא יהיה מה שיעבוד עבורו היום.

איזו תנועה הגוף שלך מבקש? עכשיו תבחרי בזה.

להקשיב לגופך:

האם את מודעת לזה שהגוף שלך מדבר אלייך כל הזמן?

הוא מדבר אלייך עם אנרגיה, תחושות, תגובות ומידע, כל הזמן. למעשה, הוא מתקשר איתך לגבי כל מיני דברים.

הוא נותן לך אינפורמציה לגבי הגוף שלך אבל גם על גופים של אנשים אחרים, אפילו לגבי הסביבה וכדור הארץ.

אם את שואלת ומקשיבה, הגופים שלנו יתנו לנו מידע לגבי סוג המזון שהם רוצים או לא רוצים לאכול, סוג האנשים שהם רוצים סקס איתם או לא, הוא ייתן לך מידע לגבי סוג הבגדים שהוא רוצה או לרוצה ללבוש, וכו.

באיזו תדירות את נוכחת עם גופך?

מה שאני מתכוונת בנוכחות זו הנכונות לשים לב לגופך.

האם את מקדישה איזשהו חלק מהיום להיות מודעת לגופך?

האם יש זמן בבוקר שאת יושבת או שוכבת ונושמת ומאפשרת לעצמך לחוש את הגוף שלך?

האם יש זמן בחיים שלך שאת מתעדפת להיות נוכחת עם הגוף שלך כמו שהיית עושה עם בן/בת זוג, ילד או עבודה?

כשהגוף שלך מתחיל לדבר, בצורת תחושות מהנות או כואבות, האם את מקשיבה?

האם את מקדישה את רוב ימייך לתקשורת, עבודה ולהיות נוכחת עם גופך או להיפך?

האם להיות נוכחת עם ולהקשיב לגופך זה בזבוז זמן?

איזה שינוי, להיות נוכחת ולהקשיב לגופך, יכול ויהיה לחייך?

איזו מתנה הגוף שלך יכול להיות והאם את מקבלת אותו?

תהליכי הגוף של אקסס:

זה יכול להיכנס לקטגורית המגע, אבל זה הבט מאוד ייחודי של מודעות גוף ושינוי שמגיע לזה קטגוריה משל עצמו.

תהליכי הגוף במגע של אקסס קונשסנס מאפשרים שינוי ובריאות טובה יותר על ידי גישה לתודעה של הגוף וניקוי כל מה שנכפה, נדחף או הושתל על הגוף שיוצר מחלה, ניתוק ובעיות גופניות (בפשטות).

תהליכי הגוף של אקסס הם הנס שכולנו חיפשנו שנותנים לך גישה לגופך. אלו הם תהליכי מגע פשוטים שיכולים לסייע לשינוי משמעותי לא רק לגופך אלא לכל חייך.

הגוף הוא המפתח לחיים שלך: ככל שאת מחוברת לגופך, כך כל החיים שלך יהיו יותר טובים.

את יכולה לדמיין מה היא גישה לגוף שלך ומה היא יכולה ותוכל ליצור? הגוף קיבל כזה שם רע במשך הרבה זמן שביסודו של דבר בודדנו את עצמנו מקבלה מהגוף שלנו ועבודה עם הגוף בחיינו.

את יכולה לדמיין את הגוף שלך כחברך הטוב ביותר וכפריט הכי יקר ערך שלך?

לעוד פרטים על תהליכי הגוף של אקסס קונשסנס, הקליקו כאן.

מה אם הגוף שלך הוא כלי הנגינה שלך לחיות, איך את מנגנת בו?

* נכתב בלשון נקבה, אך מיועד לגברים ונשים כאחד

5 tips to heal your body_blog_420Here are 5 miraculously easy things you can do with your body to start changing it today. The body has some secret weapons built in for change and health that we tend to overlook or completely forget about. Interestingly, they are free and natural!

I assure you; if you add even two out of the five actions to your life, your body will be different within only a few months.

In fact, many bodies become sick or sad from lacking these simple components.

Let’s see which of these you can add today to change your body right away?

Touch:

Hugging, massage, cuddling, sex, tickling, holding a baby, you name it… bodies love to be touched.

One of the most healing things we can do for our bodies is to be touched with kindness, presence and nurturing (unless you are autistic, then this may not apply to you). Are you getting enough touch?

So many of us are lacking this in adulthood and often the only time we might be touched is in a sexual encounter which might be far from kind or nurturing.

We even live in a world where touching is often considered inappropriate. We brush up against a stranger and we say "sorry", not "hello". Of course there are those who abuse others with touch and this is where touching gets a bad wrap.

Touch is free to us all and an easy thing we can do today to heal our bodies right away. Some of you might even notice that when you receive nurturing touch your body begins to detox emotionally or energetically. This is due to the powerful healing properties of touch. If the body is starved of touch it can create imbalance and sickness just like being starved of food nourishment.

The effects of food (or lack of food) on the body are mostly common knowledge but there is little, if any, common knowledge about the effect of touch (or lack of touch) on the body.

Touching is powerful, it can bring up strong emotions, strong relief and strong change.

How can you add more healing touch to your life today?

Laughter:

Laughter changes more than tears. Laughter is one of the ways that bodies shift and transform energies.

Laughter is one of the most powerful ways of toning, invigorating, enlivening and transforming the body,

Remember the last time you had a really good laugh? How happy did your body feel afterwards?

When we laugh we begin to transform energy. All circumstances in our lives are created by energy first and foremost. Our thoughts, feelings and emotions, consciousness or unconsciousness form the energy into our present realities and bodies. Energy is the first language, the fabric of the universe and the building blocks ( road blocks) for our lives.

Energy is free and abundant yet we tend to lose the big easy picture in favour of stuff we create in our minds; which, FYI, has nothing to do with your body.

In fact, too much time in your mind will lead to problems in the body. Laughter connects your body and being.

Laughter is one of the bodies built-in superpowers. It is for the facilitation of energy. Who knew creating one’s life could be so funny?

Laughter is powerful, it is creative and it can change your body and the world.

Imagine if people laughed with half as much intensity as they chose sadness or anger.

Movement:

What movement has your body been asking for?

Now, I don’t mean hitting the pavement or sweating till you drop, although it could mean hitting the pavement and sweating till you drop if that’s what works for your body.

I am talking about movement, not exercise. I must confess I am one of those people who loves to move and exercise but I am not one of those people who thinks all people need to exercise and that exercise is the answer.

When we are talking about healing and changing bodies, we cannot overlook movement as a facilitator of body energy.

Bodies are made to move, in fact bodies are designed to balance themselves hormonally and neurologically is through movement.

What movement would your body like today?

Does your body like to do the same movement every day or does it change?

If you had no inhibition or point of view about your body and just let you body take the lead, how would it move?

I spent many years as a Pilates instructor and with a dedicated yoga practice so I learned many many ‘routines’ for movement. I would do the same yoga practice (Ashanta) four times a week and ride my bike over to the Pilates studio to train people 6 hours a day and, of course, fit my own Pilates work out in.

That’s all very right isn’t it? Wasn’t this supposed to be the answer to a perfect body? Never mind that my body was exhausted and in pain all the time...

One day my body just simply refused to do Ashanta anymore by blowing out both bicep tendons; and that was that.

Pilates, which had once been ecstasy for my body, started feeling contractive and monotonous.

So I had to start discovering what other forms of movement my body desired.
I found it difficult at first to find what honoured my body, movement-wise. I found myself influenced by other peoples’ points of view about what was right for my body.

Over time I began recognizing my body's signs and began to discover a whole new world of sensation and body-creation through movement that I would have dismissed or overlooked in the past in favour of something more intense.

Sometimes my body wanted to do something that I would previously have considered not enough or strange; like swaying back and forth or even just having quick or not quick sex.

Many of us are misled by the ‘right’ way to exercise as though there is a right way for all bodies. Every body is different and every day our bodies are different. What worked for your body yesterday may not be what works for it today.

What movement has your body been asking for? Now choose it.

Listening to Your Body:

Are you aware that your body is talking to you all the time?

It is talking to you with energy, sensations, responses and information constantly. In fact, it is communicating with you about all sorts of things.

It’s giving you information about your own body but also other people’s bodies, even the environment and the earth.

If you ask and listen, our bodies will give us information about the sort of food they want or don’t want to eat. The sort of people they want to have sex with or not. It will tell you the sort of clothes it wants or doesn’t want to wear, and so on.

How often are you present with your body?

What I mean by presence is the willingness to pay attention to your body.

Do you spend any part of your day dedicated to being aware of your body?

Is there a time in the morning that you sit or lay and breathe and allow yourself to sense your body?

Is there any time of your life that you prioritise being present with your body like you would with a spouse, child or job?

When your body starts talking with pleasurable or painful sensation do you listen to it? Or do you ignore or even aim to repress the sensation?

Do you dedicate the majority of your days to communicating, working with and being present with your body, or the opposite?

Is being present with and listening to your body a waste of time?

What could and would, being present and listening to your body change in your life?

What gift can your body be and are you receiving it?

Access Body Processes:

This one could go in the touching category yet it is such a unique aspect of body awareness and change that it deserves a category of it’s own.

The Access Consciousness ® hands-on body processes facilitate change and greater health by accessing the consciousness of the body and clearing that which we have impelled, imposed and or implanted in the body that creates disease, disconnection and body problems (simply put).

The Access body processes are the miracle we have all been looking for that give you access to your body. They are simple hands-on processes that can facilitate profound change not just in your body, but your life.

The body is a key to your life; the more you are connected to your body the better your whole life will be.

Can you imagine what access to your body is and what it could and would create? The body has gotten such a bad wrap for so long that we have essentially quarantined ourselves from receiving from our bodies and working with them in life.

Can you imagine your body being your best friend and most cherished possession?

 

 

 

 

 

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 By the time I got to the age where a relationship with a man was even on my radar I was totally clueless. The urge, need and ever-present awkward desire for “something” with a man seemed to occupy every space of my life.

It started with my brother’s friends, finding ways to sneak out to spend time with them when they were over with no awareness of what I was after or what I wanted if I even found it.

As I grew older my bodies desires coupled with social influence pushed me to declare that I had to have sex before I was 18!

Where did this choice come from? Was I making it cause I knew that sex before I was 18 would create the most for me, really benefit my life in the most supportive way? Unfortunately no. I stumbled into it half blind and completely stoned. Self-introspection was nowhere to be found.

So I did it, I “lost” my virginity a few days before my 18th birthday to a really gentle, kind slightly older guy
who I preceded to completely ignore for the rest of my time at school with him. I was so disconnected to the whole experience. If there was any pleasure or joy in it I didn’t notice. It was not awful but it was certainly not what I have grown to know is possible in sex and relationship. It was the first time for me in this body and I wish I knew then what I know now. I would have screwed that kind, gentle faced guy way more. But alas, only the once for us.

I then proceeded over the next 14 years to stumble in and out of one-night stands, short-lived relationships and some longer term ones. I would always precede on with these guys with no clear choice in sight, impelled by need, validation and other forces of my subconscious. Getting into something with one man, sometimes if I was lucky enjoying some part of it and other times quite literally not enjoying a single part of it besides the initial flirtation. Why did I carry on you may ask? Well this is the million-dollar question. Why do so many of us continuously search for a mate, a companion?

Someone to be with or just to have sex with?

Is it a biological drive to perpetuate the species? Is it ever a creative, conscious choice for some? And if it is a conscious choice for some, what are they choosing for?

So as I grew into a woman I was simultaneously doing Access Consciousness®. When most of my peers were out getting drunk or having sloppy sex somewhere at college I was spending my days running bars and seeking to look ever deeper at the truth behind everything. Not the most common twenty-something thing to do. Not the most common any age thing to do.

So I was learning about consciousness from my step dad Gary and through life of course. I was learning how not to divorce myself in relationship and how certain choices created more or less consciousness depending on what they were.

I was learning how to be aware of what was going on in the bodies and universes of the people I was choosing as sex or relationship partners, not always the easy way.

I was learning what was true for me rather then constantly seeking to match some picture of what I had been sold about relationship. One man after another taught me what I liked and what I didn’t like. Gary taught me that if I was not happy, change something. That I always had choice and more importantly what choices created and was I choosing from my reality or someone else's?

I even at times thought perhaps I don’t desire relationship. It seemed that relationship was the cause of so much unhappiness and trouble for myself and others.

Yet secretly I deeply still desired relationship, but to what means and ends?

And then I met my husband. The circumstances of our meeting were not ideal. I was living thousands of miles away on another continent at the tail end of a failing relationship and he was married with two small children at the tail end of a failing marriage. I was seeking ever forwards but for what, I was not sure. He was also seeking and always with the accompaniment of a life time of parents telling him he should fit only into their point of view and wife who only wanted what she wanted and forever withholding with total expectation of him giving up everything for her. And he did. When I met my beautiful man he was a shadow of himself. Yet the deeply kind, intelligent, creative, handsome man still shone through.

We wound up socialising without much intention and both of us could sense a deep yearning developing between us.
And so we stood before two paths. One would take us down a more acceptable road where we would shake hands as friends and carry on with our separate lives… thinking every now and then of that quick, fleeting spark that we had once with that lovely person.

Or another path that has taken us to where we are today, happily married and getting better and better all the time.
Now did he and my magical fairytale happen just by accident? Fuck no! And in fact this is better then a fairytale, this is a real-life practical relationship were both parties consciously choose to participate in the growth for better.

Now have we always been on the same page about what growth for better was? Fuck no!
Have we both had to commit to changing at our very deepest core, fuck yes!
Would I have it any other way? Fuck no!
Have I wanted to throw in the towel at many points along the way, fuck yes!
Did I? Momentarily.

And then I began to recognise this funny thing. I began to recognise what was true for me. I began to recognise the invaluable gift my husband was and is to me. I also began to recognise my inability to receive the great gift he is and was. I began noticing my automatic reactions that would drive him away and ultimately hurt me. Anything to not receive it. I always had the best reasons of course for why he was wrong and why I should separate from him. He was selfish or inconsiderate or not devoted enough or to stupid or, or, or………….? Girl’s you know what I mean?

Side note, in my years as a facilitator I have found that this is a common phenomenon with women. They have a beautiful, kind and devoted man who desires nothing more than to make her happy and she refuses it. To both of their detriment. (I am not saying that all men are a beautiful amazing gift to women and I will leave my husband to discuss that with you)

Back to me, I started acknowledging how much had changed in my life and especially with my body with the presence of my husband. I was softer and having more ease and peace. The ever present low-grade anxiety was gone, I had peace. ALERT, there must be something wrong! Nope, there was something right.

Using the tools and processes of Access got us through all the seemingly impossible insanity of relationship. My husband and I will both attest that our relationship would not be possible without the intervening of Gary and the power tools of Access.

Tool #1, don’t give you up to make the other person happy. Don’t become what you think they want. Be you, it is a greater gift then anything in the universe.

Tool #2, Honor the other person. Don’t expect and project them to fulfil your needs and wants. Ask, seduce, invite them into your life and be grateful every step of the way. (This is one I am still working on).

Tool #3, Never stop creating. As soon as a relationship goes on maintenance mode it is doomed. If you are not happy, create beyond it. Keep interested and present with your partner. Unless you only desire a little intimacy, then just be a little present with your partner.

Tool #4, Don’t expect them to make you happy and be everything for you. Your happiness or lack of happiness is your responsibility, no one else’s. Happiness is inviting, sad just sucks for everyone.

Tip #5, Choose someone who makes your life better. Someone who gives you greater access to you. Also be that person who allows the other to have all of them even if you think you are going got loose because of it. Be willing to loose, then only then can you truly gain.

Tool #6, Care more than anyone can stand, even you.

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 Being a StepparentI was a little freaked out becoming a stepparent even though the parent who had the most positive and supportive influence on my life had been my stepfather.

Being a stepparent has so many taboos attached to it. Hell being a parent at all has so many taboos attached to it.

For me, I was not sure in the beginning what I was allowed to be for my step kids.

If I was stepping on any one's toes or to what depth I was allowed to connect and be a part of their lives.

And then would they even like me?

What if it didn’t work out between us, what would my then-boyfriend and I do?

I had to look at what kind of parent I wanted to be and would raising these children from a young age work in my life? (Hint, asking questions of your self and the Universe before making big choices can create a lot of awareness).

Many people sort of stumble into parenthood and I know many others do plan. And for me, I had the advantage of looking at the reality of what raising these kids would be like.

I had a chance to get to know them as already in the world-developed people (well as much as a 5 and 7-year-old can be). I didn’t have to birth them and then get to know what having children was like. I got to experience what living with these children was like before, should I say, I committed.

I had to look at what the reality of co-parenting with my then boyfriend would be like. And what more or less co-parenting with my stepkids mom who was not my biggest fan, to put it mildly, would also be like. And what marrying into his family would be like. Like my stepfather thought me, you don’t just marry the person you marry their whole family.

Without the tools of Access Consciousness®, I would have given up long before I was able to succeed in creating some of the most beautiful deeply touching relationships of my life with my stepchildren.

Stepparents get such a bad rap; there is the stereotypical evil Disney stepmother. So often when a stepparent joins the family that stepparent receives all the already pre-existing family’s projections, expectations and so on. The stepparent has to adjust to the already existing family dynamic.

I had to look at being a contribution without losing me in the face of everyone else’s hopes, dream, projections, expectations, and judgments. Fortunately, the children in question didn’t have any, I love kids that way. I had to look at what these children would face from their mother's Universe and how to make it all as easy on all of us as possible. I am happy to report that it was not only possible but highly successful.

I had the advantage of having a magical stepparent, not the stereotypical one. My stepfather literally saved my life and facilitated me to have all of me in the world in ways that quite frankly I doubt few others could. Having stepchildren myself now, I am only just getting the depth of commitment he made to me as a child and the sacrifices he made for me along the way.

Having my stepfather as an example of a parent gave me the strength to have patience with me and my new kids as we learned how to receive and be with one another. Those little kids sure did teach me how to receive in a whole new way with their kind open hearts and personalities.

My stepfather taught me to never enforce my point of view on the kids but rather ask them what they wanted me to be for them. To be generous with them, with my being and money and to never make them feel like they come second. Children need to know they come first, that they are valuable and a contribution to the world.

To all the stepparents of the world who are raising other people’s children, what gift or addition can you be to your children’s lives? How lucky are these kids who get more than two parents and double birthday and Christmas?

If you are a good stepparent you have mastered the art of familial diplomacy, generosity of spirit and learned to be bigger than your own personal problems. I aspire to be half as good a stepparent as my own stepfather. I know then that I will be a gift beyond reckoning to my stepchildren.

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What would it be like if we lived in a world where every child was empowered to know that they know? To know that they can be and create anything they choose? A world where they are given access to the tools that would allow them to create that?

Whether you’re a teacher, parent, step-parent, sibling, someone who works with kids in any capacity, or even if you’ve ever been a child this call is for you:

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