I did not grow up in a household that had peace with money. How about you?
My first education with money from a very early age was that of stress, conflict and upset. So I thought this is what money should feel like in my life.
Throughout my twenties, I had tons of stress, conflict, upset and debt with money. And I’m sure my life and money situation would have kept on going like this if it had not been for the massive shift that my stepfather (Gary Douglas, creator of Access Consciousness®) made in his own financial world and subsequently empowered me to choose as well.
Growing up, my mom and Gary had endless financial troubles and filed for bankruptcy multiple times.
When I was 20, they divorced and in the following years Gary completely turned his financial world around and today runs a multimillion-dollar, international consciousness facilitation business.
It was watching him change his money world that started to show me what was possible.
I had so much pain around money I started asking him for help, and that began a massive transformation of my universe that has lead to me also running my own multimillion-dollar, international consciousness facilitation business. It’s like a mini version of my dad’s, but still formidable.
The beginning of my financial peace all started with this one question: Do you love or hate money?
When he first asked me this I said: ‘I love money of course.’ And he said: ‘Then why don’t you have any?’ And to this, I had no answer.
So I started looking at what was going on in my world around money. And I did start to notice that I had an undeniable resentment towards money most of the time. I resented that it even existed and that I had to use it. I found a million reasons for why money was wrong and bad. And then I had to admit to myself, I did hate money. And that was the moment my money world started to turn around.
So I asked my dad how to change this and he said: ‘Start duplicating the energy of people who love money’. So I started looking around at people’s realities, feelings, universes and energy around money and what I saw mostly was not ease. Most of the people I knew hated money and had a lot of trouble with it.
However, I was fortunate enough to have two people in my life who did have an energy of peace and love with money (they also not coincidentally had more money than anyone else I knew). I started duplicating the energy they had with money. Sort of like the way you learn dance moves by copying and repeating until you get the dance move into your body. But instead of dance moves, it's energy you are copying and practicing.
At first, it felt gross and so strange, I didn’t really like it. I could only duplicate it for about 5 seconds and then I went back to my ‘normal and comfortable’ energy with money. But over time I was able to sustain the energy of peace with money. Not the idea of peace with money but literally the energy of it. I started being a different energy with money, rather than hating money, literally.
Any time I started going into strain or upset with money I stopped it (some times I had to force myself) and prioritized peace and ease with money in my world. Instead of going into upset I would be ease.
I know this might sound foreign or not really valid and you might ask ‘but how do you do that?’ The thing is, you choose how you feel and react to every situation in life. It’s where we put our attention and energy that dictates how things show up for us.
I stopped making bad feelings with money relevant and real. I just stopped. And replaced them with gratitude and joy. And I made the demand of myself that no matter what it took I would have peace with money. Rather than let money and my ‘feelings’ around money dictate how I felt in life.
If I had money, I was at peace. If I had no money, I chose to be at peace.
Because after all, money doesn’t make me happy. I do.
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When you have a communion with the earth a different reality can begin to occur.
– GARY DOUGLAS, founder of Access Consciousness
Your Body and the Earth
How aware are you of your body’s connection to the Earth?
How many of us eliminate our body’s sensitivity and connection to the Earth through thinking, as a way to avoid feeling and being aware of everything including what is going on on the planet?
Your body is a gift from the Earth.
Without the Earth, we would have no bodies, without our bodies the Earth thrives.
What if taking care of the Earth was not just about recycling or saving the whales? What if it was also enjoying your body totally! Judge your body and you are against the earth.
How many times have you been aware of things you would like to change on the planet and looked to what external action you can take in order to create the change?
What if you looked at what you and your body can be to transform what is occurring on our planet? Since your body is an organism of the earth, it is also a catalyst for transforming the earth and vice versa.
How many of the difficulties with your body are a result of not having a connection, a communion, and a willingness to have our bodies be a part of the Earth?
What if through being connected with the Earth you could create greater ease, space, healing, and generation for the planet?
Some tips for being more connected with your body and the earth:
- Don’t think so much. Thinking takes you right out of your body and in so doing disconnects from all earth energy.
- Judge your body less, or if possible not at all. Judgment is a surefire way of separating from the body.
- Prioritize your body more. How many hours per day do you dedicate to honoring your body, if any? Spend at least one hour per day dedicated to honoring your body, choosing what makes it feel good. And one whole day per week dedicated to it. I know it might ‘feel’ boring for your head and I assure you, you will start to feel the difference in your body exponentially.
Run on the soles of the feet, this dynamic body process re-establishes our connection with the planet, allowing us to access the healing, allowance, and vitality that the planet can contribute to our bodies and that our bodies can contribute to the planet.
Please check out these Access Body Processes and how they can contribute to you having the joy of embodiment and a greater planet?
The Access Body Processes, created by Gary M. Douglas and Dr. Dain Heer, invite you to change your relationship with your body, and as a consequence, everything in your life. These powerful and dynamic processes are not necessarily about healing and fixing the body, they are for accessing greater consciousness through the body.
What if sex could heal your body, your partner's body and the planet?
What if sex could change our lives by facilitating consciousness?
What if that was what sex with a body was for?
Is that the kind of sex you would like to be having or does that scare the shit out of you?
How confusing and unrewarding has the area of sex been in your life?
Or has it been a fun area for you?
What if sex was designed to contribute massively to our lives, bodies, and the earth? Usually, this is not what it is used for.
Sex tends to be used for procreation, control, getting attention, being validated, or loved, sometimes to abuse and so on.
What has sex been in your world so far?
Has sex been a consciousness expanding and health-inducing experience? Or not really? Or not at all?
What if sexual energy has the key and power to transform even the deepest, stubbornest (made up word), yuckiest and weirdest limitations in your body and being? Would you be willing to have that?
What if different kinds of sex were prescribed for different life and body ailments? What if conscious sex could undo and change physical and physiological sicknesses?
Are you using sex to heal and change? Or are you using sex to destroy you and or others? Or are you refusing sex altogether?
Did you receive a sexual education? Or did you receive a don’t be sexual education?
What if your parents never hid sex, never made it wrong or strange? What if your parents were both sexually healthy? What if your parents celebrated the joy you would one day have with your body and there was no judgment? From you, from them, about your body or about bodies at all? And all the creepy feelings that brings up? Who do those belong to? Is that your sexual reality or someone else’s creepy sexual reality?
Of course, this would be a far cry from the world we know today BUT what if we did live in a sexually kind world? A sexually open and healthy world; a world that respected the power of sex and knew its magical, fun and transformational gifts.
So how do we have this magic sex world?
It’s easy if you are willing to do the work and receive the bliss!! 😉
Our bodies are perfectly designed for pleasure. They are made to provide pleasure, bliss, awareness, and energy that heals when needed. Do you allow pleasure in your body or avoid it?
Do you say ‘yes’ when the body has pleasure? Or are you ashamed, judgmental, controlling and wrong when there is body pleasure?
The first step to accessing greater sexual energy is to allow the body to have pleasure. Pleasure when sleeping, pleasure when showering, pleasure when sexing, pleasure when eating, pleasure when swimming, pleasure when moving or even standing still. Always pleasure, intense pleasure, subtle pleasure, exciting pleasure and the pleasure of relaxation. It’s about not blocking or judging that pleasure out of existence.
Once we say ‘yes’ to pleasure in all its forms without judgment, other gifts will start to come. The gift of happiness, of ease and joy. It’s natural. They naturally exist in abundance in the universe.
However, if happiness, ease, and joy are not of interest to you, sex will always be either for punishment or proving. Never for joy and fun.
Pleasure is natural, punishment is not natural.
It is accessing the pleasure, bliss, awareness, energy, and when needed, healing through the body that can lead to wonderful, profound energetic transformation and yummiest of all, consciousness! All from just playing with the body.
How much judgment do you use to separate from the nurturance your body and sex with bodies can be?
Nurturance feeds the body; judgment kills the body. How much nurturance of your body are you refusing based on the lies that sex is bad?
I postulate that it is the lack of interest in consciousness amongst the people of the planet that has slung sex into the terrible state it is in today. Yummy sex would elevate many to more consciousness or at the very least happiness.
Who would want a happy, yummy, healthy, great life and body when they could have a contracted, painful, sick, limited life and body? !!KIDDING!! Sort of 😉
So we arrive at a time that sex is vilified, heavily judged and it's many gifts are unfortunately lost in a sea of confusion and judgment.
Now we fantasize about the sex that would heal and change our lives, rather than have it.
Women fantasize about a man who will one day love her enough to make her ok, and men fantasize about a woman who will one day receive him enough to make him ok. What does it take for these fantasies to become a reality?
This is where the deep dive begins, a dive into some of the thickest, most insane, unconscious areas of our lives. This is where the claiming and owning begins, the claiming and owning of what works for us and our bodies. The claiming and owning of our realities and most profound of all, that claiming of RECEIVING; the most powerful sexual energy of all!
What can you receive with your body today that will change your sexual reality right away?
Have more sexual energy in your body right now as you are reading this.
Sense your body. Sense your genitals.
If there is tension, pain or any resistance, that’s ok. Begin here.
Begin by being ok with how your body is right now.
And relax, relax more and what might you find underneath?
You have got the gift for free, it's called life with a body. Now, don’t let life ruin it for you =))))
It’s hard to end this blog because I know how vast this area is, and how much is required for this to be a reality with ease.
So I pose a question to you, dear reader. What would you like to choose? Willingness for sexual energy without judgment? Or the world where you lose all natural pleasure?
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Asking a question is one of the essential elements required in true creation, and a foundational tool used in Access Consciousness®.
Although asking a question seem relatively easy and simple, unfortunately very few people know how to be in the question.
Why ask a question?
Albert Einstein said if he had an hour to solve the most complicated problem in the universe, he would spend the first 55 minutes looking for what question to ask.
Question is essential for creation. For discovery. For change.
The question is a key that opens the door to greater possibilities. It allows the universe to show you what you are asking for.
Unfortunately we are not taught to ask questions at school, we are taught how to find the right answer. As children, we learned that we would be rewarded if we had the correct answer. And so, we tend to think that if we don’t have the right answer before we even begin, we are wrong. This is completely incorrect.
What is a true question?
The tool of using a question is so quintessentially easy, yet so few people truly know how to be in the question, and ask a true question. They ask using a conclusion with a question mark attached, or ask a question that is designed to get a specific answer.
How do you ask a true question? Start by picking something you would like to create. Would you like to create more money in your bank account? More fun in your life? Or how about more peace and ease in relationships? With whatever you would like to create more of in your life, now ask: “What is it going to take?”
Rather than asking: “What is it going to take to stop going into debt?’ which is a conclusion with a question mark attached, what if, when asking for more money, that question of; “I would like more money. What is it going to take?” was the beginning of planting a seed that would eventuate into the universe showing you what it is going to take for you to have more money than you ever thought possible? And once the universe shows you what it is going to take, you can choose it.
True question is the smartest place you can function from.
What if you were to start a daily practice of asking questions and learn the difference between a true question and a conclusion with a question mark attached?
What question can you ask today that will open the door to greater possibilities right away?
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When I was eleven years old, my dad started channelling. For those of you who don’t know what channelling is, it’s when someone ‘leaves their body’ and another being comes in to speak.
My parents were always into ‘alternative’ and ‘spiritual’ things, and channelling was just one of the many things my parents were into.
Also, I will mention now that my father is Gary Douglas, founder of Access Consciousness ®. How Access came to be is a very interesting story that includes Rasputin, the mad monk of Moscow.
When Access first started coming through, it was coming through a being who called him, or themselves, Novian. This is where the BARS came from.
The Novian beings were not easy on Gary’s body and at that time he was also channelling Rasputin. He said; ‘if this stuff can’t come through Raz, I’m not doing this’. The next day, Rasputin started talking about what would later be called Access Consciousness®.
For years, the deep Russian voice of Rasputin filled my house and my life. Rasputin was who facilitated the first Access classes, through Gary of course. He was my first Access facilitator and facilitated my first BARS class.
Before all the Access classes started, while Gary was still exploring and playing, I recall many nights curled up in the family living room. I would be snuggled into my pyjamas, mom would be on the sofa or on the floor nursing my baby sister, and Gary would be sitting in the funny purple arm chair we had in the living room. Body fully erect, face glowing, eyes closed and the voice of Rasputin booming. The whole room would fill with this warm glow of energy. Not one that you could see, but one that if you had any awareness at all, you could feel.
Whenever Rasputin came to the house I felt so loved, safe and taken care of. He remained my own personal guardian for many, many years. Whenever I was afraid or upset all I had to do was call on him and that warm, peaceful energy would appear. It would soothe me, erase all the upset and replace it with ease.
In 1998, Gary stopped channelling all together and moved forward with Access in his own voice. It was time to upgrade Access from a ‘weird’, underground thing where some guy was channelling, to a mainstream, super practical system for consciousness. When there is a spirit at the helm, people tend to mistrust or get strange and significant.
By the time Rasputin retired, I was in my early twenties and had moved onto other things like; boys, sex and drugs. Yes, drugs. If only drugs made you more conscious 😉 . A story for another time.
I count myself so enormously blessed to have grown up in a house full of this kind of magic. This is probably why I spearhead a massive body of work called Talk to the Entities®that clears the fear and gives people the tools to have awareness around spirits. A ‘spirit’ was a huge part of my life for many years. He was another member of the family in a way, and taught me so much.
When I go to find him now, he has moved on. He has become part of oneness, no longer identifiable as Rasputin. And the seeds for consciousness that he was part of planting years ago have grown to maturity. They have taken root and propagated forth many more seeds. The soft, penetrating light of kindness he showed me and so many, was a gift that only consciousness can give. The spokesperson was Rasputin; the source was fathomless.
I stand on the precipice of visiting Russia for the first time this life time.
What does the future hold?
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Any good relationship is like a healthy live culture. All fermentation must be kept healthy with attention, care and the right ingredients to start with.
If a culture is kept healthy it will give and give for many happy years, passing on its good bacteria to all who come in contact with it. If cultures do not have the right ingredients to start with or are neglected, you will most likely end up with a very bad smell.
Like a good ferment (making the vital elements of any single ingredient more dynamic), a good relationship will bring the best out of its people and make what is best about each person more available, not less.
This is how you can gauge if your relationship is good for you and the other; if each ingredient (person) can access more of themselves in the relationship, then you know the recipe for that relationship is on the right track.
If a person sours in their being in the relationship, the balance of all ingredients is wrong and must be adjusted until balance is established. If balance cannot be established, it is best to dispose of the relationship (ferment) and move on.
There are many many more ingredients to experiment with.
To begin growing a robust and healthy relationship (culture) make sure all ingredients are available before beginning the relationship. If certain ingredients are missing like self-trust, caring and openness, the ferment will most likely not be successful.
The measurements required in this recipe are largely due to the desired taste of the finished dish. If you are only preparing for a short-term relationship, scale back your measurements to suit.
Make sure that all ingredients are vibrationally compatible. You can ferment almost anything but you might not be happy with the outcome. For example, what will adding a banana to kimchi create? However, hops, yeast and water will lead to a very pleasant outcome. If you and another person (base ingredients) have different sleeping habits, eating habits, different points of view about family and money, the final outcome may not be tasty or nourishing for either.
•Many generous handfuls of knowing what your priorities in life are.
(This ingredient can be hard to find. Without this, there is no base for the ferment, and culture will not establish. To locate this ingredient, you may need to search in remote dark places, use the senses where your mind has never travelled. Be your own truffle pig to find this exquisite rare ingredient).
•Mega helping of knowing who you are getting into a relationship with.
(If you are unable to see the person you are getting into a relationship with, initially due to fantasy or dreams, that’s ok. Endeavour to be honest with yourself as you go. Failure to be honest about the person you are in a relationship with will usually lead a spoiled ferment, with undesired bacteria taking over).
•20 cups of allowance (no one is perfect, not even you)
Do your best not to lose yourself in the preparation. If you give up yourself in the preparation of the recipe, you are less likely to enjoy the final flavour.
Have fun if you can. Sometimes the smell of the ferment can be offensive, but give it more time to mature and then assess it’s health. Enjoy with a side dish of sex, or even family, and learn to develop your own flavours together.
Bon Appetit 😉
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I have been around to watch Access Consciousness®evolve from the first ever class my dad did in the converted garage out behind our house to the international powerhouse it is today.
It all started with my dad channelling the Barsand the few people who came to learn. My sister and I were the very first Bars ‘guineapigs’ and from there grew the rapid, steady, almost undefinable expansion of Access to the monolithic toolbox for change we know it as today.
In the beginning there were the Bars. Then, steadily, Gary (dad) started adding verbal processing, questions, other tools and the body of Access began to emerge.
The Bars turned into Access Foundation & Level 1 and then again it evolved into two different classes and on and on until we arrive today with The Foundation! The first ‘big’ multi-day class that introduces people to the breadth and depth of what Access has to offer. We now have The Foundation as its own amazing introduction to the end of your life as you know it and the beginning of a magic possibility if you choose it.
If you have done any Access classes, you know the power and depth that is behind these amazing tools. If you have done lots of Access you have probably started to notice that the more advanced classes you take, the better and better you actually understand and know how to apply the tools you learned oh-so-long-ago in the Foundation.
The Access Foundation has every tool, process and resource you will ever need to know to change and better any and every area of your life. Plain and simple. BOOM! The interesting phenomenon of these foundational tools is that they are so effective in their simplicity and elegance that we can miss them in search of the harder more ‘real’ way. Or just simply not apply them for whatever reason.
I literally had facilitated the Foundation class 10 times and then one day I was facilitating another and I got to a page in the manual that I had never seen before and it blew my mind. It was about Perceiving, Knowing, Being and Receiving. It said ‘in order for anything not to be working in your life there must be something you are unwilling to perceive, know, be or receive.’ It sent ricocheting bells of awareness and change through my whole universe. I was like, “Wow!!! In order for something not to be working for me there is something I am unwilling to be aware of!!!!”. This was the first time I could apply this awareness to what was not working in my life. I had literally never even seen that information in the manual before, and I was a facilitator! You get it when you get it. =)
And so, over time and through many more classes, I grew to actually getting what was in the Foundation the first time I did it. The Foundation contains the essential inoculant required to wipe out what limits you and start to establish infinite being (simply put). Sort of like how we learn to speak before we learn how to spell and define the words we use.
Consciousness is a whole amazing language of its own we can learn to speak and use before we even totally get it.
I am so excited to share the language and ways of consciousness with you and see if we can’t just make the world a better place for us, the trees, our children, the animals, life and us all!
I discovered yoga when I was 15 at my local YMCA (this was just before yoga got really popular in California) and I wondered why no one had ever told me about it?!? For the first time in this life time, my body was singing and I spent the next 10 years doing a deep dive into yoga and Pilates.
When I started yoga it was in a nondescript room with a bunch of older people. There weren’t any buddha statues or hot pink tights. The instructor was in her 50’s and there was a lot of grey hair in the room. But those grey haired people where doing 10 minute head stands and touching their for heads to their knees. They had clearly been in this nondescript room for a long time before me, and with them I discovered what my body could feel like through consciousness movement.
For the first time, I found out what my body could be, and I loved it.
I became an instructor in both yoga and Pilates. I had a 6am Ashtanga yoga practice (hard ) 4 days a week, and taught Pilates all day long, 6 days a week. This went on for a while until my body just broke. Yoga and exercise had become a punishment, rather than the pure joy I first had with it.
Some where along the line it became about ‘fitness’ and to be honest a lot of judgment. So many body judgments. Not just mine but everyone else’s body judgments. Yoga became about how you looked and how awesome your pose was rather than really deeply exploring consciousness through the body, and all that that brings. Any ways, I got caught up in the southern California fitness insanity (yes I think the way people treat and view their bodies in California is insane. And of course not just California, but you know what i mean). And so I pushed my body rather than listening to my body. I judged it’s fat and lack of strength, rather than celebrating and enjoying it’s beauty, ability and sensations. One day, my shoulders just blew out. My body would no longer do chaturanga (where your body is in plank and you lower down by bending your arms). When I tried, it was excruciating, and so that was the beginning of my body giving me different information about how it wanted to be used.
It was also around this time that I was getting more and more committed to Access Consciousness®.Traveling to classes and facilitating my own classes. The owner of the Pilates studio I was working at took me aside and told me I needed to make a choice. I either needed to commit to my hours at the studio or to all the traveling I was doing. That was really a pivotal conversation for me, and I had to look at what I really wanted to choose. I had been falling in love more and more with Access and all that it could do, and how different my connections with the people I was doing Access with were, compared to the people I was doing yoga and Pilates with.
So I took a leap into the less predictable and started facilitating Access. And some how in this processes of hurting my shoulders and not finding the answer I was looking for through physical fitness, I just gave up on it. I stopped really moving my body and at first it was a relief. But eventually my body was not happy without movement. So I had to start a new by asking my body what kind of movement it wanted. And discovering what that was even when it didn’t match my points of view about what the right thing to do was. I explored Nia, Zummba, Iyengar yoga, Kundalini yoga, Gyrotonics, and on and on and nothing ever felt right ALL the time.
Now I carry a yoga mat with me around the world to all my different Airbnb’s and hotels. I find a way to enjoy my body where I am and with the space, or weather, or environment, or the energy I have available at the time. Some times I just rock around on my back, some times I climb mountains, some times I have sex. Other times I do nothing for too long and my body screams at me to move and stretch and work.
I first met Max in Australia when he was still married to someone else (don’t judge us 😉 In those first few months we fell in love and we both knew we had a ‘hard’ road ahead if we were going to be together.Long story sort of short, we did it. And in the beginning if I had known what those first few years would have been like, would I have chosen them?
Well, I’m glad I didn’t know then cause it was all so worth it.
It would have been easy to give up in those first few hard years.
Max had to make some big choices his family didn’t support, get a divorce and go through all that.
I was deported from Australia at that time also which was the biggest blessing in disguise. It was my deportation that made us look at what we really wanted to choose. If we were going to be together, Max either had to move overseas with me (which he could not do as he had two of the cutest little kids in Australia) or we had to be married so I could come back to Australia.
Not the most romantic proposal story =) but that’s how ours went.
A proposal of practicalities and two people making a big choice that would change not only our lives but the lives of all around us.
And so we were married after only knowing one another for a little over a year.
We didn’t get the normal courtship, where you live in the same town and get to casually develop your story.
For us it was get married or don’t see one another for 5 years.
I had never thought of marriage in my life before. I was not one of those girls who dreamt of getting married. I was one of those girls who dreamt of exploring the world. Thank the lord I was born in 1979 in southern California were those girls’ dreams could come true.
Mine was not a traditional family; my parents never spoke to me about getting married or starting a family of my own. In fact, all my siblings are half and step brothers and sisters. My parents had been married and divorced before and divorced one another eventually.
So when marriage was on the table it was this strange friend I didn’t fully trust but who offered me a key to a new life I never realized I wanted.
Max showed me how to trust in love and caring in a way I had not been willing to before.
I was always expecting the other shoe to drop. To be abused, to be left.
In every relationship before I had to be the one to leave first so I would not be left. I never really chose to be close to anyone so I wouldn’t loose them or me.
I didn’t recognize in the beginning (and still discovering some of it now) how much I thought that I or the other person would always leave.
I never thought of relationship as a long term thing, it was a flashing bliss that would inevitably fall into failure.
Max showed me something different through his unwillingness to just let me walk away. He showed me how two people could work through stuff, not just fight about it and move apart.
He listened to me, he wanted to work with me and work on the relationship.
When I was reactionary, he would wait patiently until he could get through to me.
When I was angry and in conclusion he would always stay open to me. Loving me, never leaving me even if I tried to push him away with all my might.
It was through his persistence and patients that I began to trust love. And if someone was going to hurt me it didn’t matter because the power of opening to love was never worth losing again.
I had walked around guarding my heart. I was cynical about love as I had seen those who said they loved judge, lie and do harm.
We have only been together for 7 years and some would call us newlyweds still. And the amazing thing that keeps happening is that it keeps getting better and better. I was stoked on Max in the beginning but today our relationship is even a million times better then that.
We were supported, coached and facilitated by my amazing stepfather. Gary worked with us tirelessly every time we asked. We owe so much to him and the tools of access for helping us keep our shit together and discovering what a really amazing relationship can be.
One where we both keep growing and changing, where we allow one another to be who we are and always empower the other to choose. One where there are no barriers or judgment. One of total gratitude and honour.
I never thought this was possible but because of Max and Access, I do now.
I want to spend the rest of this life time creating with Max not because I’m too unimaginative or creative to do anything else but because he makes my life a better place. He gifts me everyday with this presence and kindness. Like really, I’m not just fluffy talking. My life is palpably better with him in it.
I have even started looking at what it will be like after one of us dies and will I still love this being when it has no gender (I’m weird).
We have been all over the world together, we raise our kids (Fin & Estelle) and facilitate Access.
We love food (like seriously we are obsessed), life, beauty, one another and watching the change consciousness can create (again, obsessed).
What would you like? Dare you find out?
As I write this (May 2017) I am in the northern most island of the Malaysian archipelago. The weather is hot and steamy and it has rained heavily every day of the week I have been here. The jungle is electric with the shrill of insects and the trees themselves seem to emit a sound that is more like a wave of energy than a noise. It is so alive here that nothing would remain uncovered by the jungle if left unattended for longer than 2 days.
This is one of the places that is still inhabited by old earth spirits. Always in more natural places (old forests) usually in older cultures that have not fully industrialized, like Malaysia. The jungles of the planet not only house a wide spectrum of diverse flora, fauna, insect and animal life but also the long forgotten, out of this reality spirits who nurture the trees and live unseen by man. Well, most men 😉
All older cultures have their spirit folklore which is really the history of spirits before the spirits were banished from the world of men.
Why have nature spirits faded into the brink of almost extinction and man emerge as the dominator of the planet?
There was a time in the not so distant past where men respected, worshiped and sometimes even feared the spirits of nature, even working with them. But we emerge now in a time where nearly all of the civilizations on the planet work against the ways of nature and its spirits. Disbelieving them or placing them in a realm of such
un-necessary significance and formality they are completely out of reach to society.
Fast forward (July 2017) I am staying in one of the shiny, sophisticated high rises Tokyo is so famous for. I can see the thick green tree canopy of the Imperial Palace from my towering hotel room. The thick deep green of Palace gardens is surrounded by a sea of grey cubes as far as the eye can see. The man made industrial sprawl has completely altered the natural terrain of forest, waters and hills that used live here before Tokyo was Tokyo.
On my drive to the airport in Munich (on my way to Tokyo yesterday) my Uber driver pointed out a big new technology park that has made property prices in Munich really sky rocket. I asked him what used to be there before the big new shiny tech park and he said ‘nothing’. I asked ‘trees?’ and he said yes. Apparently, trees are nothing now.
Back to Tokyo: If you have ever been to Japan you have seen the exquisite natural Shinto temples that appear so often throughout the urban and agricultural terrain of Japan. You can turn a corner in extremely urban Tokyo and there looming quietly will be the most elegant shrine to Shinto, always accompanied by at least one tree. And no matter how small the shrine or big the temple the presence of spirits remains.
The nature spirits still live in these spaces the Japanese culture has designated for them and since the Japanese spirits are polite like the rest of their culture, they of course honour the rules and stay in their little shrine or big temple leaving the city for the men.
Traveling throughout Asia you will see many similar shrines for the spirits. Always building a place for the spirits to live since they can’t live in the trees anymore because the trees got cut down.
We don’t see this in the west at all. We have little to know honour of the spirits let alone build little houses for them to live in. And even if we did would it be enough?
As we lose the old forests of the earth, do we lose the spirits that live in them? Where do the spirits of the forest go when the forest is no more? Do they disappear or do they go out wondering home less?
Would you like to rebuild or create a greater connection with the magical spirits of the earth?
I've also created an advanced specialty series called Entities Of The Earth, this class will assist you in acknowledging your own capacities with communicating and receiving from the earth spirits as well as encourage your awareness and abilities in co-creating a happier, healthier planet. Would you like to invite these magnificent beings into your life and back to power on the Earth?
What contribution can you be to these brilliant spirits of the earth?
Here are 5 miraculously easy things you can do with your body to start changing it today. The body has some secret weapons built in for change and health that we tend to overlook or completely forget about. Interestingly, they are free and natural!
I assure you; if you add even two out of the five actions to your life, your body will be different within only a few months.
In fact, many bodies become sick or sad from lacking these simple components.
Let’s see which of these you can add today to change your body right away?
Hugging, massage, cuddling, sex, tickling, holding a baby, you name it… bodies love to be touched.
One of the most healing things we can do for our bodies is to be touched with kindness, presence and nurturing (unless you are autistic, then this may not apply to you). Are you getting enough touch?
So many of us are lacking this in adulthood and often the only time we might be touched is in a sexual encounter which might be far from kind or nurturing.
We even live in a world where touching is often considered inappropriate. We brush up against a stranger and we say "sorry", not "hello". Of course there are those who abuse others with touch and this is where touching gets a bad wrap.
Touch is free to us all and an easy thing we can do today to heal our bodies right away. Some of you might even notice that when you receive nurturing touch your body begins to detox emotionally or energetically. This is due to the powerful healing properties of touch. If the body is starved of touch it can create imbalance and sickness just like being starved of food nourishment.
The effects of food (or lack of food) on the body are mostly common knowledge but there is little, if any, common knowledge about the effect of touch (or lack of touch) on the body.
Touching is powerful, it can bring up strong emotions, strong relief and strong change.
How can you add more healing touch to your life today?
Laughter changes more than tears. Laughter is one of the ways that bodies shift and transform energies.
Laughter is one of the most powerful ways of toning, invigorating, enlivening and transforming the body,
Remember the last time you had a really good laugh? How happy did your body feel afterwards?
When we laugh we begin to transform energy. All circumstances in our lives are created by energy first and foremost. Our thoughts, feelings and emotions, consciousness or unconsciousness form the energy into our present realities and bodies. Energy is the first language, the fabric of the universe and the building blocks ( road blocks) for our lives.
Energy is free and abundant yet we tend to lose the big easy picture in favour of stuff we create in our minds; which, FYI, has nothing to do with your body.
In fact, too much time in your mind will lead to problems in the body. Laughter connects your body and being.
Laughter is one of the bodies built-in superpowers. It is for the facilitation of energy. Who knew creating one’s life could be so funny?
Laughter is powerful, it is creative and it can change your body and the world.
Imagine if people laughed with half as much intensity as they chose sadness or anger.
What movement has your body been asking for?
Now, I don’t mean hitting the pavement or sweating till you drop, although it could mean hitting the pavement and sweating till you drop if that’s what works for your body.
I am talking about movement, not exercise. I must confess I am one of those people who loves to move and exercise but I am not one of those people who thinks all people need to exercise and that exercise is the answer.
When we are talking about healing and changing bodies, we cannot overlook movement as a facilitator of body energy.
Bodies are made to move, in fact bodies are designed to balance themselves hormonally and neurologically is through movement.
What movement would your body like today?
Does your body like to do the same movement every day or does it change?
If you had no inhibition or point of view about your body and just let you body take the lead, how would it move?
I spent many years as a Pilates instructor and with a dedicated yoga practice so I learned many many ‘routines’ for movement. I would do the same yoga practice (Ashanta) four times a week and ride my bike over to the Pilates studio to train people 6 hours a day and, of course, fit my own Pilates work out in.
That’s all very right isn’t it? Wasn’t this supposed to be the answer to a perfect body? Never mind that my body was exhausted and in pain all the time...
One day my body just simply refused to do Ashanta anymore by blowing out both bicep tendons; and that was that.
Pilates, which had once been ecstasy for my body, started feeling contractive and monotonous.
So I had to start discovering what other forms of movement my body desired.
I found it difficult at first to find what honoured my body, movement-wise. I found myself influenced by other peoples’ points of view about what was right for my body.
Over time I began recognizing my body's signs and began to discover a whole new world of sensation and body-creation through movement that I would have dismissed or overlooked in the past in favour of something more intense.
Sometimes my body wanted to do something that I would previously have considered not enough or strange; like swaying back and forth or even just having quick or not quick sex.
Many of us are misled by the ‘right’ way to exercise as though there is a right way for all bodies. Every body is different and every day our bodies are different. What worked for your body yesterday may not be what works for it today.
What movement has your body been asking for? Now choose it.
Listening to Your Body:
Are you aware that your body is talking to you all the time?
It is talking to you with energy, sensations, responses and information constantly. In fact, it is communicating with you about all sorts of things.
It’s giving you information about your own body but also other people’s bodies, even the environment and the earth.
If you ask and listen, our bodies will give us information about the sort of food they want or don’t want to eat. The sort of people they want to have sex with or not. It will tell you the sort of clothes it wants or doesn’t want to wear, and so on.
How often are you present with your body?
What I mean by presence is the willingness to pay attention to your body.
Do you spend any part of your day dedicated to being aware of your body?
Is there a time in the morning that you sit or lay and breathe and allow yourself to sense your body?
Is there any time of your life that you prioritise being present with your body like you would with a spouse, child or job?
When your body starts talking with pleasurable or painful sensation do you listen to it? Or do you ignore or even aim to repress the sensation?
Do you dedicate the majority of your days to communicating, working with and being present with your body, or the opposite?
Is being present with and listening to your body a waste of time?
What could and would, being present and listening to your body change in your life?
What gift can your body be and are you receiving it?
Access Body Processes:
This one could go in the touching category yet it is such a unique aspect of body awareness and change that it deserves a category of it’s own.
The Access Consciousness ® hands-on body processes facilitate change and greater health by accessing the consciousness of the body and clearing that which we have impelled, imposed and or implanted in the body that creates disease, disconnection and body problems (simply put).
The Access body processes are the miracle we have all been looking for that give you access to your body. They are simple hands-on processes that can facilitate profound change not just in your body, but your life.
The body is a key to your life; the more you are connected to your body the better your whole life will be.
Can you imagine what access to your body is and what it could and would create? The body has gotten such a bad wrap for so long that we have essentially quarantined ourselves from receiving from our bodies and working with them in life.
Can you imagine your body being your best friend and most cherished possession?
Are you seeking for a greater reality with bodies? To attend one of Shannon O'Hara's life changing 3 Day Body Classes and to find out more about the Access Consciousness hands-on body processes please click here .
Do you love money or hate money? I know, crass question.
What if the simple reality of whether you love or hate of money was at the absolute core of your monetary situation in this moment?
I have watched people for years and years, work and work and work at improving their money situation and inevitably wind up more or less in the same place they started. This is because they fundamentally dislike money.
I dilly-dallied around dealing with my money situation for years and had minor improvements and inevitably sank back into the same pattern of debt and hopelessness.
Finally, when I had just about enough torture I heard my father (Creator and Founder of Access Consciousness®) say "If you hate money you will never have it in your life".
Eureka!! That was it, I hated money totally. I resented the fact that I had to have it or even deal with it. So as soon as I would get any I wanted to get rid of it because I hated it so much! Wow, there it was, my hatred of money was driving it right out of my life.
If you hate or dislike money as soon as you have any, you have to get rid of it. Think about a person you hate, do you want to hang around them much?
So, I set about changing my hatred of money and let me tell you this was no small feat. I realized I didn't even know what it felt like to like money. It was completely foreign to me. So I started asking "What is the energy of loving money". Even that question made me cringe but I set out to discover what loving money could even be.
If you can change your dislike of money you can change your money situation and if you continue to hate money will you ever be willing to have it in your life?
I had made money responsible for so many problems rather then seeing it was what people were doing with the money that was creating the problem. Money was not bad in itself, it was a tool. It was the way people used this tool that created greatness or damage.
As soon as I heard my dad say, “Is it easier to change the world with or without money?” I was like, shit! So much easier with money, duh!
And that was it, I knew the life I really desired was one where I was capable of making big choices, affording it and being able to use money to create what I wanted to see more of in the world. Like buying rainforests, working with and commissioning the best and brightest people to create a conscious beautiful world and of course travel! And not in economy.
So, how was I going to do this from the back of my van? The choice truly began there and I have been choosing ever since.
I went from deep in debt, struggling, avoiding and resistant to running and enjoying a multi-million dollar company that changes peoples lives through empowerment and consciousness.
Not bad for a severely dyslexic, extremely righteous ex-hippy. Let me tell you, having money is so much more fun than not having money.
What choice would you have to make today and keep on making to have money in your life even if your whole life and reality have to change?
And if you have money already, what will it take for it to be EASY and JOYFUL to have that money?
I am talking about more than just handling your money problems. I am talking about deeply changing all your thoughts, feelings, emotions and energies towards and around money. Everything you learned throughout your whole life and other life times too.
I thought that money was why people were destroying the earth and I was so resentful that I had to have it or even make it. And my finances reflected just that.
I was deep in debt with no hope of getting out.
Then it was pointed out to me by my amazing father that there was a difference between people who hated money and people who loved it.
I instantaneously wanted to reject what he was saying but I was so desperate financially and I had to do something. So I listened to what he had to say as I had watched him completely turn his financial reality around from being deeply in debt, in bankruptcy and unable to take the family even out to dinner; to having more money than anyone else I knew and in addition actually having fun and joy with money.
But the more I practiced being the energy of peace and ease of loving money the easier and easier it became to be it more and more.
Soon I started noticing that money was coming to me from all over the place.
And furthermore each time the money would come to me from wherever and however, there was a joy that began to emerge in response to the money. A glimmering joy deep in my belly and being.
Money has become my lover and friend. My greatest ally and tool for greater. Money come to me more please, I love you and lust for your presence. I receive you fully as the gift and possibility you are and will never blame others bad choices on you ever again.
For most of my life I can recall having pain and tension in my stomach. It had always been there, cramping and hurting me.
Supressing my body's awareness
As I got older I started using drugs and then alcohol to get away from the pain. This went on for a lot of years and when I could no longer get away from the stomach pain I sought other answers. The furthest I could get with those answers, was that I must diet. So I would change what I ate and still the pain persisted. I then thought I must be eliminating the wrong foods or not eating the right foods or not doing the right exercise. I went on every and any diet you could imagine. I tried every alternative thing I could find.
I tried homeopathy, Chinese medicine, Ayurveda, fasting, juicing, cleansing, parasite cleansing, yoga, Pilates, running, reiki, massage, physiotherapy, psychotherapy, gluten-free, dairy-free, vegetation, you name it, I did it in spades. But even with occasional reprieve, the pain and tension would inevitably return.
Who does This Belong To?
Meanwhile I had also been learning about the idea of ‘who does this belong to?’. Which is basically the awareness that you are aware and picking up on everyone else’s thoughts, feelings and emotions like a psychic sponge. I started practicing asking, who does this belong to, for every thought, feeling and emotion I had with incredible results. As soon as I asked the question, if it wasn’t mine it totally lightened up.
Yet the stomach pain persisted and persisted. It would lighten up slightly and come back full throttle whereas I was having huge success with ‘who does it belong to’ regarding feeling and emotions.
Fast forward, to a holiday in Australia in 2011.
I awoke one morning before the sun due to jet lag. I was standing in the kitchen at first light and all the sudden a pain came into my stomach. This was the first time I really noticed it not being there and then all of a sudden it was there! It was so black and white that I could not brush it out of my awareness. So I asked quietly in my head “who’s is this?”.
Then I heard faintly two mens voices talking down the road. As soon as my attention went to these men the pain in my stomach completely disappeared.
And then I got it! Wow this was my body telling me about what was going on with these men and their density. My body had been communicating this information to me all of my life about different bodies and people and I had never made the connection that it was my body giving me information. This was the first time I got the depth of awareness my body really had and how lightning quick it was.
In addition to getting for the first time how dynamic and quick my bodies awareness was, I started getting how intense all this awareness was. I had to really be present and relax as I sensed what was going on for these men down the road who I didn’t even know.
If I took my attention off of them my stomach began to cramp, if I kept my attention present with them just being there listening to their faint voices, my stomach pain would soften. Allowing myself to be aware of them, I could sense how angry one of the men was. There was no logical explication for this I just started knowing what was going on with these men in ways they probably didn’t even acknowledge for themselves.
After a few minutes of being intensely present with my body and the men down the street the energy began to dissipate and my stomach was completely free.
Acknowledging My Body's Awareness
The awareness my body was giving me in its stomach didn’t stop after that but this was the beginning of practicing honouring my bodies awareness and thanking it for the info rather than mistaking it as mine and dreading it without end.
Acknowledgment of my body’s awareness completely transformed the way I lived my life. I became pro-active about acknowledging awareness rather than seeking the ever-escape of awareness I had practised for so much of my life previously.
As soon as my stomach started hurting I had to start looking at what my body was telling me and let me tell you what! The level of upset, anger, force and judgment that I began to have to acknowledge in people’s spaces was astronomical. It was almost unbelievable to me. Yet the more I acknowledged it and was in allowance of it the less and less my stomach hurt.
There is so much we are aware of yet how many of us are taught how to deal with it other than to shut off from it in whatever way we can. This ‘shut off’ however does have side effects, like my tummy hurting for example.
I won’t lie, as I began to practice acknowledging awareness it was not easy, but like with all things the more I did it the easier and better at it I got.
Is there anything going on in your body that might be your awareness of the world around you?
Sex and relationship can be an illustrious and treacherous area. Booby traps (no pun intended ? of judgment, insecurity, power, closure, defence and need just around every corner. And it can also be an expansive gift that touches us in ways that so many of us deeply desire. So to begin with, would you be willing to destroy and uncreate everything that relationship is to you?
I was 15 years old and trying really hard to fit in with the vibe that was going on all around me. Plenty of talk amongst my friends of ‘hooking up’, ‘getting it in’, ‘I’d fuck her’ and being cool enough to qualify for the desirable and elusive girl.
These vibes never felt right to me but sex was still on my mind in a big way. Hell, even in 6th grade all I thought about was having sex with the student teacher! Testosterone was pumping through my veins and the urge to play with female bodies was almost unbearable.
Me teenage sex years were a tumult of the points of views of the other males in my life and my knowing that something greater was possible yet never knowing how to get there. My fathers self worth was founded on his capacity with money and the looks of the woman on his arm, my friends wanted to stick it in wherever and however they could and pornography only showed sexual excitation through judgment, force and violence.
Needless to say, my sexual desire did not fit any of the pictures I saw all around me.
At one time, I had found sex stories on the internet and was a big fan of reading whatever I could get my hands on. I masturbated for the first time when I was 15 and felt terrible about myself when my mother found me reading these stories in my bedroom (In hindsight what was really the problem!? Did I do something wrong with my big bad penis?). If only I had known the tool ‘Who does this belong’ to when I was 15?!
I have since come to realise that so many of the twists, shutdowns and judgments of sex that I thought belonged to me were actually an awareness of other peoples’ heads all around me, especially those closest to me.
I went on to having small encounters with girls at school. From being too shy to kiss my first girlfriend at 15 to losing my virginity at 17. Anxiety, shutdown and intense desire would be the closest words to describing my life at the time. Can any of you guys relate??
Even to this day I am still getting clear on what it is to be a man. Are men the perpetrators of the diminishment of women? Are women ever the diminishers of women? If we are truly all infinite beings, what is all this circus about gender wars, abuse & perpetration?
As a humanoid man I have had even less of a clue of how to deal with women. I always had to be in judgment of myself to determine whether I was wrong or right. Would I make the right choice or the wrong choice? Will I get the sex right or will I fail? Will I fulfill this woman’s desires or will I fail? I could never be myself. And heads up to all the men reading this…. This is never a turn-on to women!
This is where the tool of ‘Interesting Point of View’ becomes really handy. When you are totally head-tripping (thinking a lot!) yourself into being the most repulsive man on earth, say to yourself, “Hey, what if this is only an interesting point of view that I am being the most repulsive man to the female race?” Rather than perpetually judging yourself into thinking that your judgment will one day make you a better man.
And a side note on the tool… what if you were being ‘interesting point of view’ about your judgments and then had every choice available to you? What would be possible then?
From my early 20’s I explored many modalities to find out what could be possible with sex, women and relationship. I did years of men’s groups, men’s & women’s work, tantra classes and self-judgment. Oh, did I mention I judged myself a lot? I really couldn’t get it right, no matter what I did.
I had few relationships before meeting my first wife at 23 and being a father at age 25. That’s right, my first child 15 months after we first met! A long time before that I had decided that I would definitely be a father and that this would make me a more important person. Interesting point of view I had that point of view!
When I met my current wife, Shannon, my life was going down hill fast. I had plenty of great ideas of what could work in relationship and never the balls to apply them. It was at this point that I recognised that one of the gifts a woman can be to a man is to never accept less from him than what he is capable of.
She saw more in me than I had ever been willing to truly acknowledge before. And she would accept nothing less than my commitment to my life and what I knew.
If you are a man reading this, have you ever noticed the desire to be everything you can be in your relationship?… in your life?… for your woman?… and for the world?
Has that been available to you before? Have you been successful with this in your life?
It wasn’t until I found Access Consciousness that I could be everything that I am and like Dr Dain Heer says, “It never looks like you thought it would!”
Like it or not, there is nothing like a vagina to inspire a man to greatness. And by ‘vagina’, I mean the vitality and light of being alive and the force of the living earth. AND I mean vaginas. The ones that walk around in pants.
Women, here is a secret about men. You have the power to inspire a man to greatness or to crush him to dust… What would you have to receive about you to inspire a man to be all he can be? Do you desire more from him than you are willing to admit? What will it take for you to have what you desire with a man?
Are you willing to inspire a man to greatness by whatever means you have available to you? Are you willing to challenge him to a degree of greatness that he would otherwise shy away from? Vaginas are one of the most powerful tools on earth, speaking for all men, please use them wisely.
After three-and-a-half years of being with Shannon now, through the good times and bad, I am more aware than ever of the possibilities that a committed relationship can create. Not just a commitment to the other person, but a commitment to your own life.
Do you commit to the energies that create separation? Or do you commit to the energies that create greater intimacy? Whether you choose to be single or in relationship, it is the same choice. A commitment to your life.
What would you truly like to create?
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By the time I got to the age where a relationship with a man was even on my radar I was totally clueless. The urge, need and ever-present awkward desire for “something” with a man seemed to occupy every space of my life.
It started with my brother’s friends, finding ways to sneak out to spend time with them when they were over with no awareness of what I was after or what I wanted if I even found it.
As I grew older my bodies desires coupled with social influence pushed me to declare that I had to have sex before I was 18!
Where did this choice come from? Was I making it cause I knew that sex before I was 18 would create the most for me, really benefit my life in the most supportive way? Unfortunately no. I stumbled into it half blind and completely stoned. Self-introspection was nowhere to be found.
So I did it, I “lost” my virginity a few days before my 18th birthday to a really gentle, kind slightly older guy
who I preceded to completely ignore for the rest of my time at school with him. I was so disconnected to the whole experience. If there was any pleasure or joy in it I didn’t notice. It was not awful but it was certainly not what I have grown to know is possible in sex and relationship. It was the first time for me in this body and I wish I knew then what I know now. I would have screwed that kind, gentle faced guy way more. But alas, only the once for us.
I then proceeded over the next 14 years to stumble in and out of one-night stands, short-lived relationships and some longer term ones. I would always precede on with these guys with no clear choice in sight, impelled by need, validation and other forces of my subconscious. Getting into something with one man, sometimes if I was lucky enjoying some part of it and other times quite literally not enjoying a single part of it besides the initial flirtation. Why did I carry on you may ask? Well this is the million-dollar question. Why do so many of us continuously search for a mate, a companion?
Someone to be with or just to have sex with?
Is it a biological drive to perpetuate the species? Is it ever a creative, conscious choice for some? And if it is a conscious choice for some, what are they choosing for?
So as I grew into a woman I was simultaneously doing Access Consciousness®. When most of my peers were out getting drunk or having sloppy sex somewhere at college I was spending my days running bars and seeking to look ever deeper at the truth behind everything. Not the most common twenty-something thing to do. Not the most common any age thing to do.
So I was learning about consciousness from my step dad Gary and through life of course. I was learning how not to divorce myself in relationship and how certain choices created more or less consciousness depending on what they were.
I was learning how to be aware of what was going on in the bodies and universes of the people I was choosing as sex or relationship partners, not always the easy way.
I was learning what was true for me rather then constantly seeking to match some picture of what I had been sold about relationship. One man after another taught me what I liked and what I didn’t like. Gary taught me that if I was not happy, change something. That I always had choice and more importantly what choices created and was I choosing from my reality or someone else's?
I even at times thought perhaps I don’t desire relationship. It seemed that relationship was the cause of so much unhappiness and trouble for myself and others.
Yet secretly I deeply still desired relationship, but to what means and ends?
And then I met my husband. The circumstances of our meeting were not ideal. I was living thousands of miles away on another continent at the tail end of a failing relationship and he was married with two small children at the tail end of a failing marriage. I was seeking ever forwards but for what, I was not sure. He was also seeking and always with the accompaniment of a life time of parents telling him he should fit only into their point of view and wife who only wanted what she wanted and forever withholding with total expectation of him giving up everything for her. And he did. When I met my beautiful man he was a shadow of himself. Yet the deeply kind, intelligent, creative, handsome man still shone through.
We wound up socialising without much intention and both of us could sense a deep yearning developing between us.
And so we stood before two paths. One would take us down a more acceptable road where we would shake hands as friends and carry on with our separate lives… thinking every now and then of that quick, fleeting spark that we had once with that lovely person.
Or another path that has taken us to where we are today, happily married and getting better and better all the time.
Now did he and my magical fairytale happen just by accident? Fuck no! And in fact this is better then a fairytale, this is a real-life practical relationship were both parties consciously choose to participate in the growth for better.
Now have we always been on the same page about what growth for better was? Fuck no!
Have we both had to commit to changing at our very deepest core, fuck yes!
Would I have it any other way? Fuck no!
Have I wanted to throw in the towel at many points along the way, fuck yes!
Did I? Momentarily.
And then I began to recognise this funny thing. I began to recognise what was true for me. I began to recognise the invaluable gift my husband was and is to me. I also began to recognise my inability to receive the great gift he is and was. I began noticing my automatic reactions that would drive him away and ultimately hurt me. Anything to not receive it. I always had the best reasons of course for why he was wrong and why I should separate from him. He was selfish or inconsiderate or not devoted enough or to stupid or, or, or………….? Girl’s you know what I mean?
Side note, in my years as a facilitator I have found that this is a common phenomenon with women. They have a beautiful, kind and devoted man who desires nothing more than to make her happy and she refuses it. To both of their detriment. (I am not saying that all men are a beautiful amazing gift to women and I will leave my husband to discuss that with you)
Back to me, I started acknowledging how much had changed in my life and especially with my body with the presence of my husband. I was softer and having more ease and peace. The ever present low-grade anxiety was gone, I had peace. ALERT, there must be something wrong! Nope, there was something right.
Using the tools and processes of Access got us through all the seemingly impossible insanity of relationship. My husband and I will both attest that our relationship would not be possible without the intervening of Gary and the power tools of Access.
Tool #1, don’t give you up to make the other person happy. Don’t become what you think they want. Be you, it is a greater gift then anything in the universe.
Tool #2,Honor the other person. Don’t expect and project them to fulfil your needs and wants. Ask, seduce, invite them into your life and be grateful every step of the way. (This is one I am still working on).
Tool #3, Never stop creating. As soon as a relationship goes on maintenance mode it is doomed. If you are not happy, create beyond it. Keep interested and present with your partner. Unless you only desire a little intimacy, then just be a little present with your partner.
Tool #4,Don’t expect them to make you happy and be everything for you. Your happiness or lack of happiness is your responsibility, no one else’s. Happiness is inviting, sad just sucks for everyone.
Tip #5,Choose someone who makes your life better. Someone who gives you greater access to you. Also be that person who allows the other to have all of them even if you think you are going got loose because of it. Be willing to loose, then only then can you truly gain.
Tool #6,Care more than anyone can stand, even you.
I was a little freaked out becoming a stepparent even though the parent who had the most positive and supportive influence on my life had been my stepfather.
Being a stepparent has so many taboos attached to it. Hell being a parent at all has so many taboos attached to it.
For me, I was not sure in the beginning what I was allowed to be for my step kids.
If I was stepping on any one's toes or to what depth I was allowed to connect and be a part of their lives.
And then would they even like me?
What if it didn’t work out between us, what would my then-boyfriend and I do?
I had to look at what kind of parent I wanted to be and would raising these children from a young age work in my life? (Hint, asking questions of your self and the Universe before making big choices can create a lot of awareness).
Many people sort of stumble into parenthood and I know many others do plan. And for me, I had the advantage of looking at the reality of what raising these kids would be like.
I had a chance to get to know them as already in the world-developed people (well as much as a 5 and 7-year-old can be). I didn’t have to birth them and then get to know what having children was like. I got to experience what living with these children was like before, should I say, I committed.
I had to look at what the reality of co-parenting with my then boyfriend would be like. And what more or less co-parenting with my stepkids mom who was not my biggest fan, to put it mildly, would also be like. And what marrying into his family would be like. Like my stepfather thought me, you don’t just marry the person you marry their whole family.
Without the tools of Access Consciousness®, I would have given up long before I was able to succeed in creating some of the most beautiful deeply touching relationships of my life with my stepchildren.
Stepparents get such a bad rap; there is the stereotypical evil Disney stepmother. So often when a stepparent joins the family that stepparent receives all the already pre-existing family’s projections, expectations and so on. The stepparent has to adjust to the already existing family dynamic.
I had to look at being a contribution without losing me in the face of everyone else’s hopes, dream, projections, expectations, and judgments. Fortunately, the children in question didn’t have any, I love kids that way. I had to look at what these children would face from their mother's Universe and how to make it all as easy on all of us as possible. I am happy to report that it was not only possible but highly successful.
I had the advantage of having a magical stepparent, not the stereotypical one. My stepfather literally saved my life and facilitated me to have all of me in the world in ways that quite frankly I doubt few others could. Having stepchildren myself now, I am only just getting the depth of commitment he made to me as a child and the sacrifices he made for me along the way.
Having my stepfather as an example of a parent gave me the strength to have patience with me and my new kids as we learned how to receive and be with one another. Those little kids sure did teach me how to receive in a whole new way with their kind open hearts and personalities.
My stepfather taught me to never enforce my point of view on the kids but rather ask them what they wanted me to be for them. To be generous with them, with my being and money and to never make them feel like they come second. Children need to know they come first, that they are valuable and a contribution to the world.
To all the stepparents of the world who are raising other people’s children, what gift or addition can you be to your children’s lives? How lucky are these kids who get more than two parents and double birthday and Christmas?
If you are a good stepparent you have mastered the art of familial diplomacy, generosity of spirit and learned to be bigger than your own personal problems. I aspire to be half as good a stepparent as my own stepfather. I know then that I will be a gift beyond reckoning to my stepchildren.
What would it be like if we lived in a world where every child was empowered to know that they know? To know that they can be and create anything they choose? A world where they are given access to the tools that would allow them to create that?
Whether you’re a teacher, parent, step-parent, sibling, someone who works with kids in any capacity, or even if you’ve ever been a child this call is for you:
Well at least that’s what I used to think. Bodies can be such an interesting topic and one wrought with so many issues. It wasn’t even until my literally 10th year doing Access Consciousness®, that I started to begin to even realize what a body was really for. It’s for ENJOYING life on earth. But how often is that what people truly do or choose with their bodies?
For years I would hear my stepfather Gary Douglas, founder of Access Consciousness®, say “You don’t truly have a choice about reincarnation until you totally have the greatness of embodiment”. I would wonder and wonder, what is the greatness of embodiment?
Up until that point I had not had so much fun with my body. I hardly ever appreciated it. You know when you look at pictures of you in the past and your like “Wow I looked so much better than I thought I did back then” and then you make the choice to appreciate your body now so you don’t miss out on how awesome it must be only you don’t quite feel that way about your body anyways?
And then there is all the pain. It was not until attending and facilitating my own Access 3 Day Body Classes that I even began to get that the body was a fun thing to have. It was the Access Hands-On Body Processes that began to give me a connection and joy with my body that I had never realised was possible.
I began to really get how aware my body was, and is, and that all the “pain” I was experiencing in my body was not my body’s. It was my body’s awareness of other bodies, including the Earth. I then began to ask, “Do I even want to be aware of how aware my body is”?
It seemed like every time I walked down the street the intensity of awareness my body and being were having were too much for me. So then I would “try” to shut off the awareness by avoiding being around people, by over eating, by putting barriers up to my and my bodies awareness, and of course, this ended up hurting even more. So one day I just said “to hell with it! I will give awareness a chance to show me another possibility. There has to be something else, there has to be.” Then, bit-by-bit, my body started getting happy. I was still aware of all the pain and suffering in all the bodies around me, but it didn’t have the impact it once did. I began sensing an explosive, ecstatic pleasure emerging from my stomach where before I had only had blocks and density.
I continued using the Access Body Processes and choosing to have a body (Oh! Did I mention choosing to actually have a body helps your body be happy?) and I realised how much energy I had been using against my body’s joy. I realised this was a behaviour I was taught by basically everyone else with a body. Nearly everyone on earth above the age of 12 deliberately limits the pleasure and joy their bodies have. Crazy!
What would our world be like if everyone was walking around enjoying their bodies, loving and caring for their bodies rather then judging and punishing them out of existence? What a totally different world!
What kind of world would you like to live in with your beautiful body?
What would a world where we honoured and regarded our body’s intelligence and awareness be like?
What would a world where bodies were honoured full stop be like?
I dare you to find out…………………………
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Access Consciousness® offers you the tools and questions to create everything you desire in a different and easier way, and to change the things in your life that you haven’t been able to change until now. It empowers you to know that you know and provides you with ways to become totally aware and to begin to function as the conscious being you truly are.
These life-changing techniques, tools and processes are designed to empower you to create the life you desire. Practical, dynamic, and pragmatic, it provides step-by-step processes to facilitate you in being more conscious in every day life and eliminate all the barriers you have put up to receiving. Then life becomes an adventure of what would I like to choose? What would I like to create? How much fun can I have being alive?
Body born happy and over the next 15 years taking body completely for granted never realizing or acknowledging that the energy, health and ease it had was a gift that would only be sorely missed once gone.
Years 15 to 25 spent subjecting my body to all sorts of abuses from drugs, alcohol and over/under eating to bad sex and massive self judgment.
By age 26 I had been doing so many Access Body Processes that my body simply took over and started forcing me to listen to it. I would love to say that in my own good sound mind I chose to listen to my body but no. It was my body’s voice that became so loud that I could no longer disregard and ignore it.
I then had to make a real choice, did I want this body? If I could not ignore it anymore, did I want to deal with it? The consciousness and voice the body processes had given my body was forcing me to choose something I had not been willing to look at. The fact that I actually had this body that was not what I had ever realized it was.
I begin to realize my body was a great gift of living that was designed for pleasure, joy, awareness, creation and consciousness. Was I willing to have this? For if I was willing to have this I would have to start not only discovering my body’s mysteries and true gifts but also fully receive them. I had been pushing them aside and assigning labels of pain or discomfort to them. Shaming my body’s ways and consciousness and resisting ever really succumbing to them. Strangest of all, I didn’t even know why.
Through receiving loads and loads of the Access body work and of course making other choices for my body (like choosing the right lovers for my body) a different body reality began to emerge. My body glowed and any and all aches, pains and sickness had to be seen as my bodies awareness of something, not actual problems.
Will my body live forever? We’ll have to see. Will I never have an ache, pain or sickness ever again? Probably not. My progress at this point is that my body is happy, for real. And when I do something that infringes on that happiness my body tells me in no uncertain terms who the boss is.
Join me in the magic the body can be and use the Access Body Processes to get there.
What if the whole point of life was to have the greatness of embodiment?
Are you living?
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I just got a whole new depth of receiving today.
Over Christmas, my husband and I had an interesting thing ‘happen’ where I was not allowed transit through New Zealand to go to Houston to spent the holiday with my family. Our tickets were on Air New Zealand =)
So we had a choice to scrap the trip or buy new tickets on the day of travel right before Christmas and as you all know if you have done any traveling during the holidays, the airlines put the prices right up.
We could only fly with Qantas, since it was direct. No stopping in New Zealand and the only tickets they had left were in business class for a combined total of $23,000 AUD =)!
As soon as the person at the desk told me $23,000 I had an instantaneous explosion of joy, then my mind kicked in. My mind said, ‘that’s way too much money’. Then my joy said ‘that’s AWESOME!’
Then my mind said ‘why is that awesome, it's way too much!’ And on and on and on.
I sat for a good 10 minutes just sort of going through the processes and in the end, the joy won! I just did it, all the while being so blissed out I felt like I was going to orgasm in my pants and had no idea why.
Fast forward to now, I am in Malaysia. I left on a 2-month trip from my summer home in Australia to the northern hemisphere (winter) for classes, creation, and fun. I packed all winter clothes and completely spaced that Malaysia is right on the equator and always hot.
I had two classes scheduled for Malaysia and woke up on the first morning in Kuala Lumper realizing I only had one outfit that I could work in for classes without sweating myself to death. I thought ‘jeez I need another outfit for working’. And that was the sum total of my thought about it.
My friend and host in Malaysia, Ryan Tee was taking me around today for some sightseeing, we visited the Batu Caves and did a bit of hiking then he took me to a super mall on the way home (if you know KL it’s the land of the super malls) to grocery shop.
On the way into the mall, I spotted one of my favorite clothing stores and was pulled right in. In a matter of literally 60 seconds, I had flitted around the shop and pulled out two dresses. I chose one and took it to the register to pay, no line of course and the beautiful, lovely woman behind the counter informed me this one was 50% off =). I would have happily paid full price and how does it get better?
I popped my credit card into the machine and the words on the screen started flashing RECEIVING, RECEIVING, RECEIVING. I thought ‘that’s cute’, then it hit me like a bolt of lightning! RECEIVING!!!!!
I had totally been misjudging that receiving was when stuff was coming my way when it was flowing towards me, not when I was flowing money or energy away from me like spending money on a new dress or buying $23,000 plane tickets.
But that had been what the bliss joy was when I purchased that airfare with total ease at Christmas and again here in this dress shop with the credit card machine flashing receiving at me.
I was choosing what worked for me, not making money the issue while using it and voila receiving. Receiving is about energy flowing in all directions, in and out. Not just about in, in, in. Receiving is like the ocean tides, in and out, swelling and retreating.
Created and influenced by the harmony of the infinite universe (I’m not even being airy-fairy about that one, it’s science!), not our minds which are far from harmonic or infinite.
Receiving is bigger than us like the ocean, it is ever giving and can totally terrify us.
Some of us dive deep and others look from the distant shore.
What are you unwilling to be, what are you unwilling to do that if you were willing to be it or do it would create so much money in your life you couldn’t stop yourself from having everything you desire?
It is so easy to see degrees of receiving reflected in our financial worlds. Every time we think or say we can’t afford something, receiving stops. Every way in which we limit our choices based on money is a demonstration of where and what we won’t receive.
What can money be when it is about receiving in all ways?
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I have a secret confession to make.
I love my body! Why is this a secret you might ask?
I was, up until somewhat recently, quite ashamed of my body and not caring for it at all. I was hugely resistant to even having a body let alone loving my body. When I say body love I mean the kind of loving where you feel like your body is a sexual organ in every walk of life and you honor it totally. The kind of body love that attracts lust and pleasure, the kind of body love that heals and changes the world!
Through deep exploration and seeking consciousness in every area of my life, I discovered how much body shut down and judgment I had hidden away and functioned from.
So hidden that I didn’t even realize it was there, I just lived totally at the effect of it.
When someone would admire or care for my body I would slightly or not so slightly reject it rather than receive it while at the same time desperately desiring to be admired. Crazy.
When I married my husband I found a man who would love me beyond all my limitations and all the body rejection and wrongness. All of the judgments and energies I had been secretly hiding away all of a sudden became unavoidably evident.
When this happened, my body would turn on and become more energetic and beautiful and I struggled with the resistance and desire. I didn’t want to have a bitch fight with the women on the planet nor be eye-raped by the men. So my best choice was to just shut off the body so as not to elicit any difficult situations.
I noticed every time my husband would just want to touch and hold me I could find a million reasons for why I didn’t want it.
It was too hot, I was to full, he smelled bad, it was inappropriate in public, it wasn’t the right time and so on and so on.
But when I really looked deeper at what I was choosing I found that what I was really doing was preventing my husband from setting my body free.
From turning my body on beyond where I could control it and giving me access to all the energy, bliss, pleasure, caring and power that my body processed.
So I had two choices. I could reject that which was bringing to light all that had been so unconsciously hidden away for how many lifetimes, that was creating pain in my body? Or I could bite the metaphorical bullet and see what life was like stripped bare of my body shame, wrongness and defence.
What I discovered was these ANTI-body judgments and programs hidden away in my world making me reject having my beautiful, kind, tolerant and ever giving body.
The ANTI-body judgment that bodies were shameful, gross and that most of all my body was untouchable and even deeper these blocks to orgasm and pleasure that had no logic or thought to them, they just popped up whenever my body was about to be too happy or too full of pleasure and stopped the whole party.
Every time I wanted to look at where these limitations were coming from it was a minefield of confusion and emotions that usually ended with me creating separation and shutting people out from loving me, caring for my body or helping me at all.
The truly sad part of this is that it’s not an uncommon phenomenon, this is a somewhat universally shared behavior and reality by many women and even men.
So how does one move beyond seemingly impossible body judgment and disconnection?
!!Enter the Access Consciousness Body Tools!!
And let me tell you, even if you have enjoyed your body up until this point you have felt nothing until you gain the kind of access to your body these body tools and processes create.
Seemingly impossible difficulties with the body disappear and a lightness, joy and caring emerge.
One of the primary things I have been listening to my father (Founder of Access Consciousness) say for many years was, ‘Life was about getting the greatness of embodiment.’ I had no clue what he meant by that until I started to gain these inroads of access to my body.
And I don’t just mean my tangible body, with skin and organs, you know ‘that body’. I mean the whole zone of awareness I embody, including the earth and all of its creatures. I started to get how aware my body was and how much of that awareness I had mistook as my body’s stuff. I would pick up on other people’s body judgments and take them home with me and own them totally.
When I started asking ‘Who does this belong to?’ it was mind blowing how much my body was picking up on that I was not acknowledging as awareness.
I had totally misunderstood my bodies way.
My body was telling me stuff with all the pain and feelings it was having, I was just misinterpreting it.
Bit by bit my willingness to have my body grew and all the lifetimes of sexual and physical wrongness, let down, betrayal, shut down, abuse, you name it started to unravel and what I found beyond that was a happy body that was so giving, so full of joy and so pleasurable that it almost felt wrong. NO WAIT!!! That’s the judgment I was talking about =))))))
So when is the time for body love and reverence not body judgment and criticism?
What if we could change the world with the way we embody? What if a truly happy body can change the world?
What gift is your body desiring to give you that you can receive now? Even if it’s naughty =)
Just because you want to clear them doesn’t mean it’s time to clear them.
After (I don’t know how many years!) of facilitating Talk To The Entities® I finally was able to clear some very sticky entities from my body only a few nights ago!
I knew for years that I had Holocaust survivors (obviously they didn’t survive) attached to my body or in my world in some way and no matter what I did (and I know a LOT) I just couldn’t get them to go.
About 3 weeks ago I chose to start a cleansing diet to support my body in changing some stuff going on with it. It was all going great, uncomfortable at times and I knew it was all par for the course.
I started a veggie soup fast, just for 2 days to help my system have a break and reset. On the night of the first day, all hell broke loose!
I started becoming border-line hysterical, telling my husband, “I just didn’t care,” and “I am going to have a more substantial meal.” Mind you, he was not stopping me, he had nothing to do with my choices at all but for some reason, I was making him the perpetrator of me not being allowed to eat.
I stormed into the kitchen and started making myself pasta and wouldn’t you know, 10 min after putting the pasta in the water it would not cook. It turned into a gluey and starchy mess. Then I snapped.
I stormed downstairs and started thinking, ‘I’m going to starve to death!’ When I heard myself think this I knew there was something up other than hunger. I knew I was not starving to death, not even close, in fact, if I was being honest, my body was not actually hungry at all.
This hysteria and thoughts of starvation were so familiar to me. They had been there all my life, lurking under the surface and terrifying me from getting too hungry. If I got too hungry or was denied a meal for whatever reason I would have to overeat to make sure that the feeling went away. Needless to say, I have struggled with weight for all of my teen and adult life.
Fast forward to the veggie soup fast. As soon as this hysteria of starving to death came up I knew something was up so I started POD/POCing myself and clearing entities and it just wasn’t working. So I called my husband (he’s also an Access & TTTE Facilitator) and told him I was flipping out and asked if he could help me.
As soon as he asked if there were any entities there I wanted to rip his head off.. so I knew we were on the right track. After about 3 minutes of clearing it was all done. All the Holocaust survivors were gone at last! After years of ‘trying’ to clear them, it was finally time!
I had finally created and chosen enough consciousness with my body that I could let these guys go. I had sworn to take care of them and one of them, in particular, was very insistent that I EAT! Very Jewish mother type.
The cleansing diet was not just helping me detox toxins, it was allowing me to gain access to all the energies, and in this case, entities that I usually put food on top of to not feel. Whenever the sense of hunger would come into my body even a little these Holocaust survivors would start flipping out.
The depth of my commitment to them and the depth of their discombobulation created a recipe for no change until I had asked enough questions about my body and ran enough Access Body Processes. Only then did the change became choose-able.
There can be so many things at play with entities and people, so many lifetimes of commitments and other solidifying choices. So much unconsciousness, so much lack of real tools and assistance that works. And even when one does have the most dynamic tools and assistance possible you can only get it when you get it.
So, to all of you who know you are dealing with entity stuff and either have given up on changing it or run around in circles, please don’t give up. Sometimes we need to get through whatever we need to get through to get there. If you keep asking and choosing, you will change everything, even the most ‘impossible’.
I am happy to report that I have spent the last 3 days letting myself be ‘hungry’ for at least a little bit each day and the coast is clear. No hysteria, no paranoia eating, no Holocaust survivors!
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Let me start this off a little weird… I have been going through the strangest changes.
They are not the kind of changes where I am like, “Yeah, I’m changing this is amazing!” They are like, “I feel weird, I don’t know what to do with myself and whatever I used to create from and be isn’t there any more.”
In true humanoid fashion, I of course went into that I was wrong in some way. I had made the wrong choice or I had done something wrong.
And amongst all the wrongness and conclusion I was still in the question about what the heck was actually going on.
And then one day as I was laying on my sofa looking out at the ocean it came. I was totally at peace and nothing was wrong! I was so unaccustomed to being totally at peace and not having anything to handle or a fire to put out or a problem to solve with money, or health or relationship that I was totally put off by it. But alas, there I was, with no problems!
I got that I had created so much of my life up until that point from getting out of problem. Getting out of money problems, getting out of health problems, getting out of relationship problems or getting out of being bored.
In brutal honesty, Talk To The Entities came about from needing to solve a money problem. Sure, I could have done any number of things to solve not having money and TTTE was making me money so I kept with it. And the more money I made from it the more it spurred me on to keep going with it.
Then came all the energies and life changes for me and others that TTTE created and then I not only got out of money problems but also was rewarded with all kinds of energies I had not even realized existed, that expanded and nourished my being and life.
Then TTTE grew up and moved out of the house to make its own way in the world and I thought, ‘Oh no, what am I going to do now? TTTE is all grown up and it doesn’t need me anymore. It doesn’t need me to support it all the time.’
Wasn’t that what I had been working towards all these years? TTTE being strong enough to stand up on its own and create in the world without me having to hold it together all the time and make sure it kept growing?
Then it was strong enough and instead of rejoicing at the accomplishment I mourned the change. So fuck that! Thank you TTTE, thank you Access, thank you Gary, thank you TTTE Facilitators and thank you great spirits of the earth. Together we have launched this ship of spirit consciousness and it is sailing fast and smooth.
Not having something hard to work at was not an easy space for me. TTTE and Access had given me myself, immigrated me to Australia, helped me meet and marry the right and good man for me, bought me a BMW and a multi million-dollar home and made me happier then I had ever realized was possible in all the years of being able to realize.
I had defeated and completely surpassed every problem or limitation that ever seemed real to me. I was shot out the other side totally taken care of, totally supported and I was freaking out about it.
As I lay on the sofa looking out to sea amongst this massive revelation, a soft essence became perceptible to me. It was so soft and light I could and had easily dismissed it in favour of more urgent and dense matters. The soft spoke to me in a language I did not understand but I realized this soft had been there with me from the beginning, it had never left me.
It had let me make choices that hurt me and were hard yet it never diminished in its own light and strength.
It was the soft and lightness of creating from true possibility, the opposite of creating out of problems. Creation from no force, no judgment, no effort… simply choice!!
I had heard about this mythical beast of choice for many years. That choice created but I had never actually gotten it until that very moment on the sofa looking out to sea. My life was all about choice now, not the problem life I had been acting out.
This is even a new frontier for me, so I will keep you posted from the frontier as the new world is forged. There is loads of space out here for those that choose!
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As soon as I caught onto it, I was hooked on being happy! I then set out discovering what created and contributed to expanding joy and happiness in my life and doing my best to only choose that. And guess what, it made me happy and rich too! Money makes me so happy!
Has being always happy in life even ever been a reality to you? Or have the bumps, bruises, let downs and unhappiness of life been so the norm in society that you think its right to tolerate an unhappy life?
And so...enters in the choice! What choice can you make today that will make your life happier right away?
This is of course being only for people who choose to be happy, I know a lot of people enjoy being miserable and to those: What will it take to fully enjoy being unhappy to its fullest?
3 TIPS FOR CREATING A JOYFUL LIFE:
1. Stop making other peoples problems your problems.
How often do you try and handle other peoples unhappiness and upset? And do you even give up your own peace and ease for someone else?
We can’t help but be aware of other peoples stuff, its part of being an aware person. All my life I was aware of what was going on in other peoples heads, all of it unspoken. And I spent my whole life ‘trying’ to make them happy.
When I became older and wiser I realized they didn’t want to be happy.
The gift of happiness I was intending to give was being thrown into a black-hole never to be seen or heard from again. I gave so much of myself to make people happy without it ever being received, that that black-hole devoured even my own joy to the point that I wanted to die.
I indulged death as an option but my stepfather would not let me die so I turned it around and set out to stop making those that would not be happy happy, and most of all stop making sense out of why they would choose to be unhappy.
People choose to be unhappy just as they must choose to be happy. Just because you have had a terrible life doesn’t mean you can’t be happy. Joy is a choice, not a predicated reward you earn when you get it right.
2. Choose at least one thing per day that makes you joyful:
Now this one might be trickier as you are actually going to have to discover what creates joy for you. For some of you this may be easy and others of you it may feel like digging your self out of a deep dark pit with a butter knife.
But let me assure you the quest for joy is not a silly one only for people with the time or money rather the most honorable quest. For when you are happy the whole earth benefits.
Ask what contributes to the joy in your life, then choose that even if it is hard, even if you don’t have the time, even if you can’t afford it. Choosing is free and so is happiness.
3. Get ready to offend others and be rewarded by the universe:
Have any of you noticed that sometimes joy and happiness seems like a punishable offense by others? Have you ever had anyone be angry or guilt trip you for being happy? I have, and I have seen countless others also condemned for their joy.
Too bad for them because the universe rewards joy. The more joyful you are the more everything will just magically work out for you.
Does joy have expectations or is joy happy no matter what? What are you going to choose? Are you going to be unhappy because things don’t work out your way or are you going to be happy anyway?
Joy is free and totally non-circumstantial, meaning there is no reason for joy.
Has joy been enough of a priority in your life or do you prefer strife? Truth?!
Don’t look for people to support you in being happy or to share in your happiness, they may not be able to. But the universe will! Be happy and all will work well for you.
What if the whole point of life was to be happy? Will you choose it? Discover more HERE
The tale of the haunted house is an old and well worn one. The spooky house that no-one wants to go near. The creaking floorboards, the shadows moving down the halls, the whispers in the night, the books flying off the shelves and the other
For too long, why houses get and stay haunted has been shrouded in mystery. Once you know why houses get haunted it is sure to remove most if not all of the superstition and make it all seem…………… well, silly!
The number one reason houses get haunted is simply because the person living there before might not know they are dead! Seriously.
When people are not super conscious people, they are also not super conscious entities. Also if someone's body dies while on drugs, the being transitioning can often times be heavily affected by the drugs. Meaning, they are unconscious from the drugs even after they have left their body and they do not recognise they don’t have a body anymore. So they just hang around (boring).
In addition to the unconscious thing, often when people's bodies die from shock or trauma this can create a holding of sorts. They are in a shock-trauma holding pattern and are not able to ‘move on’. So they are just sort of stuck there, not alive and not able to move onto their next choice.
Can you imagine the gift you would be to a spirit like this? I’ll show you how.
The number two reasonwhy houses get haunted is because you have an ownership spirit. These are the ones who even though they don’t have a body anymore (and know it) still have the point of view that it’s “THEIR HOUSE!”.
They do a lot of MINE! They just think they own it pure and simple and you being there is an invasion of their ownership.
The solution for this is surprisingly simple.
The number three reason how houses get haunted is because someone is inviting the spirits there either intentionally or unintentionally. When people use drugs (pharmaceutical or recreational) or excessive amounts of alcohol it draws a certain kind of spirit in.
People can also have abilities with entities like I do and this draws spirits in. This only becomes a bad thing when the person is unconscious to this fact or desires to be unconscious to this. An ability is an ability, love it or hate it, it’s not going away. This is the entire premise of Talk to The Entities, giving people all the tools and info they require to thrive with their spirit abilities.
The number four reason a house gets haunted is because its built in the wrong place. There are places for people and there are places for spirits. Since people have become the self-appointed rulers of all of earth they blunder and stumble and put things where they wont work. If people would follow the energy, trust their knowing and honour the energy of the earth (which includes spirits) they would put their houses where they would work. Not where they would block and stop energy and entities from flowing.
As it is for the most part people don’t follow the energy and houses get put where they will accumulate energies from the earth in the wrong ways and even create a stuck space where entities get trapped (so to speak).
The most obvious examples of this are on a place that used to be used as a grave yard or even a less obvious one is on a biological earth portal. The earth has portals as part of its biology and its is very unwise to build a house on or right by one. Its like putting a house on a sink hole except the house wont sink, it will just fill up with ghosts. Bad design essentially, that’s all.
That is all the circumstances and reasons houses get haunted. Nothing more.
Please note, having spirits visit an individual in the house is different than the house being haunted. When that individual moves from the house the spirit will move too. The house isn’t haunted, the person just has spirits around them, different. Spirits have to stay with a house in order for it to be considered haunted.
Haunted houses are a thing of the past, the future is knowing what creates the stuck energy and entity we are calling haunting.
The myth of creation is that it is hard, significant, meaningful, permanent and linear.
I watched my 6-year-old step daughter create the most amazing little bouquet of flowers from plants in the front yard that I hadn’t even noticed were flowering.
She started picking these little tiny flowers with hardly any stem and my first response was ‘she’s hurting the plant’. But before I could say anything I noticed that the plant was actually enjoying being picked by her, so I said nothing and continued to observe while doing my own work.
She proceeded to buzz about the front yard climbing here, picking there and in the end she had this exquisite little bouquet created from flowers I had not even seen before she created.
She had seen and sensed possibility that no-one else saw and went for it. Not from decision or obligation. She probably didn’t even think of creating a ‘bouquet’, she just did. She didn’t even have an end goal, she just kept humming and picking purely from the joy of being in the front yard on a sunny Saturday.
I piped in as she was finishing and asked if she would like a little vase for her bouquet, her creation inspired me to contribute. Once the flowers went into the vase it was dazzling.
She didn’t fully get what she had created cause for her it was just fun in the moment, not significant and meaningful (hint, hint).
What can you create today just for the fun of it that will add beauty to your life right away?
What invitation can Creation be in your life? Find out more HERE
Do you ever feel like you’re all alone? I’ve got good and bad news for you… you’re NOT!
Whether you’re aware of it or not, each and every one of us have beings who look after us care for us and will play on our team for us if we allow them to do so. What would you be capable of creating if you cooperated, participated and received from these beings? Your team is waiting on the bench to be called into the game of your life. Are you wiling to receive them? What would you like to create in the New Year? Would you be willing to let your team have a stronger presence in your life? Would you be willing to let them assist you in all the amazing ways that they can and care for you so deeply that it changes everything?
This is how you begin to play:
Tell them you’re sorry for making it so hard for them to get through to you
Ask them to play in your life
Tell them they have your permission to override your resistances
An exercise for connecting with your team:
Find a time when you can fully relax, when you are most likely to receive. Sitting down or laying down.
Ask everyone who is not on your team to leave the room. Only your team can stay.
Relax down all of your barriers to receiving from Spirits. Do your best to push them down. You’re gonna have to really work at this. This may make you start shaking or laughing or crying or make you tickle. No matter what, you have to practice putting those barriers down and keeping them down.
Ask your team to touch you. Stay relaxed and notice what shows up. Allow your self to perceive these energies and be embraced by these entities. Don’t worry if you fall asleep. When you wake up the exercise will be over. If you stay awake enjoy the ride!
This is the beginning of reconnecting with your Team. This is what they feel like. This is who they are. You can’t reach them through your mind. You have to relax into receiving. Practice this and your relationships will develop dynamically.
What would you like to create? What can you choose? Will you allow the beings of light into your life?
This is my gift to you. Don’t forget who’s here for you. They’ve never forgotten you.
The time to receive is now...are you ready? Find out more about the Beings Of Light HERE
Shannon O’Hara is the creator and Founder of Talk to the Entities. Her willingness to be in the question of what else is possible with our awareness of the spirit world is totally different.